Not the philanthropist you used to be? Completely normal!
I recently broke up with a friend. She is nice, that was not the point. But she was one of those people you can not easily avoid. Not even temporary. Because a "do not sign up" was always friendly, but just as concrete addressed immediately. Uff ... that was exhausting for me. Too exhausting obviously. And zack, she was gone.
I think people ... ok. So some.
In general, I realize that I'm not so easily inspired by people I meet. And even if I'm excited, that does not mean that I'm looking for long-term contact with the person. Sometimes I wonder how that happened. How the relationship-hungry networker could become such a lazy anti-Uschi. Am I feeling cold? Did I become asocial? I think that's not it. In truth, I'm just smarter.
Why we are more skeptical as we get older
The thing is: I just know more than before. I know that 58 acquaintances can no longer act at some point. I know that in the beginning people often present themselves differently than they really are. I know that people have demands on you if you do not keep them at a distance. And I know that my capacities are finite. As normal as all these things for me, which I have long exceeded 30, sound so absurd are such thoughts for teenagers. In our youthful "easy sense" we found everything exciting, great, thought everything possible and some people gods. That was great, no question. But it was also simply a misjudgment. With today's knowledge we would not have fallen into life as we did. That's why it's good that we did not have it yet.
Humans are human. And I'm not everyone's friend
Although it sometimes feels like this, I'm sure we have not become worse people just because we no longer want to be everyone's friend and all consider our friends just because they share an interest with us. We are just more experienced and can better distinguish ourselves. Why do we need thirty friends and acquaintances, if we know anyway whose opinion counts for us? Why should we bother our really important people just because we promised XY, Hinz and Kunz a beer after work, a birthday party or a girl brunch? But above all, how would it be to justify ourselves, to overwhelm ourselves with thousands of "super important people" in our lives, whom we all could no longer live up to. The fact that we no longer find every person immediately supertoll and to the potential Best Buddy explain, so is a really good news. It is a sign of wisdom, of strength and of right priorities. No, getting old does not only have disadvantages for God.
