Marriage: "He verbally cheated on me badly"
I and my eleven-year-old daughter moved together with my partner a year and a half ago. 340 kilometers I have moved away from my previous residence. I knew and loved my friend for three years. He is not a superman, but someone whose weaknesses and mistakes I thought was good and able to live with them. The most important thing: He mediated that he means it with loyalty very seriously. We are both divorced after long marriages.
I was happy to have found him after some failed attempts. It was not easy to let two distinctively individualistic people live in a harmonious relationship under one roof. But we did it very well.
A double life on the internet
Then, after half a year of living together, something very bad happened: I noticed that he was living a double life on the internet. He was logged in to all erotic forums and exchanged emails with women who made me sick. My friend, whom I loved and trusted so much, verbally betrayed me so badly.
After the first discovery of his double life, of course, there was a huge confrontation. The terrible, it went on like this. At longer intervals, I "checked" his mailbox. And every time I found the same mails again. I think he needs this and can only half-heartedly promise to stop doing it.
Where does he meet his buddies?
In addition to these Internet contacts, he is otherwise quite opaque when it comes to meetings with his buddies. He never tells me exactly where he's going, but I know he and his buddies love going to erotic clubs.
I can not talk to my friends about this topic. Everybody would immediately say, "Leave this bastard." I can not do that. My daughter has settled in dazzlingly in the new environment and also I have no desire to live a single life again with all the frustration that belongs to it. I suffer silently and try to hold on somehow.
