10 love rules from the 90s - that are no longer true today!
When we started to data, the world looked a bit different. Many of us met a boy for the first time in the late 1990s or early 2000s. And how did we make the dates clear? About Tinder? Pfft! You could be glad if there were cell phones - and if not, we had to make an appointment over the phone. Yes, you actually had to SPEAK to flirt. And in front of mom, dad, sister and dog (because the phone was of course in the living room ...).
But, you may have noticed: There has been a lot of change in dating. No shaky hand on the dial, no common browsing in video stores more ... and with the gender roles have somehow changed the rules of manners.
Dating tips from the 90s rewritten
The US author Alison Segel has tried dating tips from the 90s in modern times - and has failed miserably. A man even broke up with her because he had to "do all the work". For elitedaily.com, Segel has rewritten the rules:
90s: Do not have sex immediately!
Today: Have sex when you feel like it
Rules prevent one from following one's feelings. And the stomach is often the best guide! Sex is not forbidden, not even on the first date!
90s: Do not get in touch with him first
Today: Write to him if you want
There is a difference between being "needy" and "taking initiative". Even if many still adhere to the "make you rare" rule - it is so obsolete!
90s: Men pay
Today: The bill is shared
Alison Segel finds it nice if the man pays the bill on the first date. But at the latest after that must be over. If you earn roughly the same, it's only fair and modern that both pay.
90's: Do not get involved in last-minute dates
Today: Be spontaneous!
If you're not always a spontaneous gap filler for someone else, then a last minute date is fine. Why refuse? In everyday life, plans change quickly.
90's: Men are not allowed to show emotions
Today: Men, show you vulnerable!
If you show emotion, it makes the whole dating thing a lot easier. Nobody wants men like emotional blocks of ice these days.
We find: These dating and relationship rules are also passé!
90s: He has to make the marriage proposal
Today: She can take the initiative!
90's: Only men watch porn
Today: Even women like erotic! (for example Erika Lust-Filme)
90's: Men love cute little mice like little flowers
Today: Men like tough women like Beyoncé
90s: He picks us up by car
Today: Cycling is as cool as never!
90s: You go to the cinema on the first date
Today: we'd rather go eat - you can talk much better!
