How can I convince my husband of a couples therapy?
The answer of the expert
Thank you for your trust in us!
I can well understand that your husband's view of your marriage causes you to feel desperate, angry and helpless. This is certainly also stressful for the common life and the claim to "convince" your husband, is probably also depressing and exhausting. And, frankly, most likely not successful.
Please try to accept your husband's decision and look at what you want to change in your marriage or in your everyday life or your life. Because you would consider counseling or therapy as support, seek professional help for yourself. Often speaking about marital problems with a third person changes something so that you can more easily go about your husband or even tackle things that only you want to change yourself.
Nele Köhler is a psychologist. She works as a therapist in her own practice near Hamburg.
