Hello dear reader,

well, shouting at your own child again today? Although you have decided that you do not want to do this anymore? Oh, you know that it is totally unfair to make a little girl with cute pigtails just because it wants a red instead of a pink mug and therefore loudly cuss? Or the little boy is actually just tired and for this reason has been complaining for half an hour and tugging at your leg? But you have him at some point a "Now it's enough but me" in front of the bib, so that it has also noticed the neighbor next door!

Rounding up children: why do we do that?

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Maybe you just broke the hat-line because you slept badly last night. Or you had trouble with a colleague and think about it all day long. Maybe you have a juicy migraine behind you or a to-do list as long as a Rapunzel braid. Could it be that you have a bit of a panic, because you do not know how to get birthday presents, check the vaccination schedule for the dog, and make an appointment with your son's teacher this week?

And even though you're determined not to let your stress out on the kids anymore and stop yelling at these innocent creatures, it has happened again.

All warn against roaring parents

Now you're frustrated with your smartphone, chilling and googling a bit, and reading articles in parenting magazines entitled, "Because shouting is stupid, so we're raising kids right now," or blogging from a mindful mom who's there "How children's souls suffer: Mommy, why are you just screaming?" A Facebook post complains in your timeline: "Heavy dream after severe scolding Children cope with abusive language of the parents only with difficulty".

And then you think to yourself: oh dear, heaven? Have all other mothers under control? Why do I only freak out like that? What's wrong with me and why is it always me, who toads their kids in the supermarket and while gymnastics, while in all other peacefreeEier cake rules?

Maybe screaming is sometimes human?

Then I'll tell you something: Not only do you freak out every now and then. I do it too. Many people freak out and of course mothers too. Because mothers are often people with little sleep, a double burden of family and work and a whole lot of hot shit on the to-do list.

Granted? some have more, some less control. This is of course a matter of character. And there are, of course, the mothers with steel nerves, who can bring the seventh physical child, who endlessly mauls or quarrels, to the point of reasoning with angelic tongues. And that at 38 degrees outside temperature. But that should still be far less than the women who simply have an average level of stress and eventually, after the thousandth "Mamaaa" and the millionth sibling dispute, sometime call "F ****" and a fist against the wall thunder.

Sure, we can work on ourselves. For example, look that the stress decreases and the rest increases. Then we feel better, we are more relaxed and do not leave the frustration in the family. I have tried it with mindfulness meditation, yoga and co., And it really blows away.

But then everyday life came in, with all its demands, and the cd with the mantras runs less frequently. The yoga mat is dusting away, and now I think every day: Now relax and make a morning salute, damn ax!

Everyday life overtakes us

But the phone is already ringing and Luise has to be picked up from kindergarten because she has put a pearl in her ear. You know that: the little stories that sound funny in retrospect, but in reality speed up the pulse to 200. So at the latest in the evening I'm broken again like Bolle and just before exploding, when Jimmy still complains after the second story that he does not want to sleep.

Sounds from Mickey Mouse and I go up in the air like a rocket.

Not screaming so much and being more careful with our cute offspring, this is of course a great job that we can always make ourselves. We parents work on us every day and should never refrain from doing so.

But what we should do is to say to ourselves that we are normal people with normal nerves, who usually break normally in normal places. That's why we are still the best parents for our children.Anyway, I do not read any lyrics that make me feel guilty, but rather get the yoga mat out or head a piccolo? I'll save one or two outbursts more effectively than with the raised index finger out of the education box.

I'm me

Understand me correctly, I also do not think the Schreierei nice. It is intimidating, annoying and frightening to the child and everyone else. Anyway, I struggle every day to control myself.

But I admit openly: I just do not succeed sometimes. In the end, I apologize to my children and tell them that it's not okay. After all, they experience an authentic mom, who simply does not know what to do from one point on, but who strives to be respectful with every effort.

Parents who are always in control in this regard, I sincerely admire. I would like to be like her. But I am me and even with my thin nerve fibers, can I get kids pretty good? I'm sure.

Dear reader, do not go to court so hard, but be aware of what it means to have children. It is certainly the most beautiful, but also the most exhausting task of your life. That sometimes the nerves break, is completely normal!

Text by Laura Fröhlich, originally published on heuteistmusik.de.

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