Intimate confession: 10 mothers about their feelings of guilt
Mothers are the best! Unfortunately, they are taught too little by society. That they will sacrifice themselves to some extent and usually do everything in their power to be a good mother hardly rewarded, Rather, it is taken for granted, and if a woman suddenly does not work or is not super happy about her life with children, you are reproached.
The bad conscience of the mothers
That does not work, because it causes many mothers to feel guilty, which is rarely justified. Numerous women have shared anonymously via the "Whisper" platform, which gives them a bad conscience as a mother. What becomes clear: Mostly it is completely legitimate, understandable feelings, because of which women torture themselves and make themselves ready, Here are ten examples.
1. "I want my body back"
"My little one is not in the world yet, but I want to 'get my body back' and feel awful when I say that, I love her and look forward to her, all the same: I finally want to feel nice in my body again. "
2. "I lost myself"
"I love my son about everything, but sometimes I do not want to be a mother anymore because I feel like I've lost myself."
3. "I am responsible for the problems of my daughter"
"My daughter has mental problems, I feel terribly guilty for having brought her into the world like this."
4. "I can not give siblings to my son"
"I feel so guilty because I'm a single parent and can not give siblings to my son, I feel like an inferior woman."
5. "I hate myself for my miscarriage"
"I hate that I had a miscarriage and I feel like I failed as a mother."
6. "I do not have enough milk for my baby"
"My baby is drinking so much milk that I have to top up with extra food and getting the bottle gives me the feeling that I'm the worst mother ever."
7. "I do not give enough to my children"
"Being a mother at Christmas is horror, I hate that guilty conscience that I always have until Christmas Eve, and I always feel like I'm not giving them enough."
8. "I ruin their childhood"
"Being a parent is so hard, sometimes I feel like I'm ruining my childhood, but I'm the only parent willing to teach them how life really is, but that's why I have such a guilty conscience. "
9. "I leave my son with others when I have to do something"
"My son is five and I always have a bad conscience when he's with others so I can do something."
10. "I need an evening for myself"
"I so badly need an evening for myself, but I feel guilty that I have to give my children care to work so I hate having a babysitter to go out, this bad conscience is terrible. "
Anyone who knows these or similar feelings and therefore also has a guilty conscience, we have to remind them willy-nilly: your children owe their lives, their laughter and everything they have. They love you and will never forget what you have done for them. You do what you can and that's enough. You are heroines!
