I do not want to breastfeed my child
No sushi and no cheese. Car service for all. Be the only one at parties that stays sober. After nine months of pregnancy, I finally had enough. I did not want to be so much alienated anymore.
I wanted my body (and some of my old life) back. That's why I decided against breastfeeding during pregnancy.
Do I love my child less because I do not quiet it?
Yes, that's selfish. But is that bad? Is that why I love my baby less? No. A happy child needs a happy mother.
At the hospital I immediately said that I did not want to breastfeed? and that you should note this please. That was still relatively easy, I had strong contractions and thus other worries.
After birth, a nurse came to my bed and asked if it was true that I would not breastfeed. I nodded. Although there was no discussion, I felt degraded, almost like an alien. The two bed neighbors gaped. Everyone disapproved of my decision, that did not feel right.
I am annoyed by such reactions. This is a personal decision that every mother has to make for herself, perhaps together with her partner.
Even a bottle child has skin contact
My friend accepted my decision immediately. He knows how much security you can give a baby while feeding. (Yes, even without breasts.) My son and I have always cuddled, this only for all Still lobbyists who think a bottle child is being filled ten feet away and without skin contact.) The argument that bottle children have no proper tie is therefore untenable. Our son even has a double. Father and son have a very close relationship.
And what about the cold withdrawal? About half a year after the birth I founded a book publishing house. My re-entry into the job was not accompanied by any Abstillkampf. Not a few mothers want or need to work again. Then the baby should stop punctually with the drinking of breasts. My experience from the circle of friends: a crazy stress for both sides.
Nevertheless, it is social consensus that breastfeeding is best for the child. Even the food industry says. However, it is also prohibited to promote baby food, which aims to prevent mothers from breastfeeding.
I myself was not breastfed. I have neither a binding disorder nor allergies. My son is also healthy. And even if that's right with the allergies, it depends on what the mother eats and drinks, how and where she lives. What does she pass on to her baby via the milk?
Is it natural, if nursing mothers are totally exhausted?
Consensus is also that breastfeeding is the most natural thing. Might be. But earlier, mothers died at birth. That was also nature. Is it natural, if nursing mothers are totally exhausted?
I do not say that everybody is like that, I have girlfriends who like to breastfeed. But I also have girlfriends who are just a shadow. Because the baby drinks every two hours. Because they just can not say: Father, please take over, I have to sleep more than an hour at a time.
I remember one particular situation: a new mommy friend was visiting and looked at the clock every five minutes. She was so stressed by the thought that the milk pumped out is not enough, her baby is screaming with hunger, she is not home in time. Relaxation? Impossible.
I have to break out of the cotton wool world
Six weeks after giving birth my friend and I went out for the first time. Food (with garlic!), To the theater, nightcap in the bar.
With a child the world is upside down. You live on another star. That's exciting and wonderful. I enjoy that very much. But I have to break out of this cotton world again and again. Not to lose myself. The bottles made that easier for me.
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