How can I take things less personally?
1. Everyone has their own truth
We believe that all the energy in this world relates to us personally. But the fact is that every person we deal with is first of all concerned with himself. The others do not wake up with a radiant self-confidence and set themselves as a daily goal to observe the weaknesses of others.
First of all, every human being evaluates all things that happen before their own background. We're just part of the big puzzle, so we do not have to put all the blame, all the mistakes and the bad mood on our own doing.
2. Do not just look at the wounds
Every person has other wounds to which they react. For example, some are sensitive to their appearance, others are constantly doubting their assertiveness in the job. In the meantime we are fixated on keeping an eye on these wounds and are just waiting for someone to confirm them. Instead, we should realistically assess the situations. It is best to step back inside and try to look as value-free as possible at the situation.
3. Make yourself independent
Self-confidence means nothing more than having a good awareness of yourself - so first of all to love yourself. Because the most important confirmation does not come from the outside. It does not matter if we have 200 likes on our Facebook post, the boss praises our work, or the partner says "I love you" in the evening.
We can learn to recognize ourselves more. For example, by making choices, making clear announcements, following our vocation, not turning ourselves down, and much more. Anyone who does this makes them independent of the opinions of others and is therefore more relaxed when criticism comes from others.
4. Being an example
The great Mahatma Gandhi has put it in a nutshell: "Be yourself the change that you desire for this world." If you wish to treat others better, you should be good for your fellow human beings. Because what we send out, we also get back. And a first change could be to smile more often.
5. Address conflicts
The others can not look into it. Therefore, one should address the things that bother and hurt. Because conflicts do not just dissipate, but every constructive discussion liberates. It is important to pack the criticism of the other in first messages and not to accuse. So, "I did not understand how you meant it" or "Your comment hurt me" instead of "You're always so mean to me".
6. You should let go of what you can not change
There are situations that are stuck in the impasse. The choleric boss will not change fundamentally anymore or the egocentric girlfriend will no longer be an attentive listener. In that case, one should have the courage and draw the consequences. Every job, every friendship, every relationship has its time. Some are for a long time, others will not fit anymore after a few years. Recognizing this needs overcoming. But it helps to free oneself from permanent negative energy and to start again.
