Jealousy, in-laws, money problems ... there are many disputes in a relationship. According to the American psychologist and couple therapist Alexandra Solomon, the relationship crisis lurks behind certain statements. In Psychology Today, she reveals which three sentences you'd better never come across if you want a harmonious relationship.

1. If you loved me, you would ...

Hui, a pretty mean sentence! Because the partner can hardly counter something correct. According to Solomon, one should avoid such assumptions and say: "I do not understand why you are reluctant to do it, I interpret that for me so that you do not love me enough", This clarifies his point of view without declaring the claim a fact. A much better and, above all, fair basis for discussion!

2. Why can not it be the same between us?

A question that many will overhear, if they do not want to believe that the partnership is changing. Of course one lives and loves differently in the seventh year than in the first. Which does not mean that you can not change the situation. If you want to bring fresh wind into the relationship again, you should put on concrete proposals, says the psychologist. Example: "I would like us to do more together again this weekend!", This gives you much better chances to change a certain thing in living together.

3. You behave like your mother / father!

Evil! Because even if that is not necessarily an insult, it is often perceived by the other as an attack. According to Solomon, the concrete behavior and the effects on oneself are much better: "If you get so loud, it scares me!

Incidentally, there are even more sentences that can jeopardize the relationship:

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