Why we are outgrowing ourselves when we stop saying that one sentence?
It must have been a Tuesday afternoon about 30 years ago, but I can still remember exactly. My gym teacher? His name was Gilbert, came from Canada and had a French accent? That's what gave me a lesson in life this afternoon. "There's only one sentence that you do not want to hear here, and if you say it again, you're doing five road struts," he said, much louder and stricter than usual. "I can not do that 'is forbidden to me" he added. He was also able to explain that very well: "Because you can not learn it that way". He was right, by the way. Because I could do a handstand, I just had to practice it a few (hundred) times.
Break out of routine
"If I tell myself that I can not do something, then I manifest that thought and I will not do anything to change that," explains Nicola Fritze, motivational trainer and author of the book "Motivate Yourself, Otherwise No One Will!". In fact, you can "program" yourself. If I keep telling myself that I can not or will not do something, then I'll believe that at some point? and do not trust me anymore. It is so important that we dare something so that we sometimes break out of our routines, experience more, become more self-confident, have more fun. Yes, I believe we can all outgrow us if we just delete that one phrase from our lives. I think that everything will be better, more beautiful, easier and, of course, more exciting, if we often say "I can do it very well".
Just do it, do not hesitate
How it works? By making things easy, do not hesitate, but try them. To stay with my turn example: For example, I was somehow half my adult life afraid to do a handstand. After I had overcome her at Gilbert, she came back sometime. I know that sounds banal, in fact it is not vital to be able to do one. There was a kind of fear in my head about doing things that I had to face. In a nutshell, I first tried a headstand on the wall. It worked, it did not look good, it was not elegant, but I could.
Laugh helps
Unconsciously, I did it right, explains motivational professional Nicola Fritze. "I recommend gradually taking the first step, first doing what I believe I can and continuing to do," she says in conversation. She also has a tip on the use of the forbidden sentence. • Complete the sentence 'I can not do that' with a 'still'. The word 'still' opens doors to change and development opportunities. With this addition, a statement is no longer carved in stone. The 'still' indicates that we are already on the way to change something. In addition, according to Nicola Fritze, something else helps to do things that one does not dare to do: laughter. That relaxes everything. Always.
It makes you proud to trust yourself
At least then I stood a few times on my head, but not on my hands. Definitely for three weeks. Until it became too stupid to me. Then I just made a handstand in a daring moment (I strongly recommend not to imitate!). That does not sound important, but for me it was. I was so proud of this poor gymnastics exercise as rarely in my life on anything before. By the way, by the way, I can stand really good on my hands. Had I said the bad line more often, it would not have come to that, I'm very sure.
