Where does the love-hate relationship with our body come from?
Oh, there are so many ways to hate his body, and Monika Gschwind knows them all. Most women think they are too fat. Others find themselves too tall, too small or even ugly. However, since you can not leave your own body like a partner or a job, you inevitably have to come to terms with it. That's why women go for example in Monika Gschwind's seminar "Love you in your body". There, the Ulm naturopathic practitioner meditates, talks and breathes with the participants, whose respective problem with the appearance for the other women in the group is rarely comprehensible: "The difference between self-perception and external perception is always amazing."
The love of hate for one's own body, which has been cultivated extensively by so many women - and more and more men - is a curious phenomenon of modern times. On the one hand, the zeitgeist dictates that you should give your body a lot of love in the form of time and money: manicures, pedicures, hairdressing appointments, beautician appointments, cellulite packs, Zumba courses, strength training, diets, tattoos, fat-off Exercises. It is fed with gluten-free raw food and organic Acai berry juice or towed him to fasting on Sylt. You visit breathing courses, mindfulness trainings and running schools to teach the body things that it should be able to do, but that somehow you no longer trust it.
Besides, there's always something to improve. After all, the body is incredibly important, and as such for every visible figurehead of the personality. For other things, he is not so needed.
Thanks to a desk job, those who have little time to be outside, to create something with their hands, to walk in the rain, to dig in the garden, to swim naked in the lake, to kiss for a long time, to dance their nights, to sing loudly or touching other people uses four of its five physical senses only on a paraphor. Crazy times: The less we really need to use one's body, for work and everything else, the more important is its appearance.
Scientists like the sports sociologist Karl-Heinrich Bette see this phenomenon as a "paradox of modernity": The body is increasingly displaced from everyday life thanks to cars, computers, television and communication via smartphones, at the same time he has experienced an unexpected social revaluation. Because for something he has to be good after all.
There is also another, complementary theory: By mastering our body shapes, we also believe that we can control our lives, says the Italian philosopher Michela Marzano. If this is true, there is however a tiny catch: It does not work. Just like life, the body can not be completely controlled. Yes, sometimes he does not let himself be controlled.
You notice it on a small scale when, despite training, the little bump on the belly does not go away or when the reflection irritatingly no longer shows the 27-year-old woman, who is actually for many years. You can see it more clearly when sex desperately desired ecstasy just will not come, but the migraine attack on the first free weekend for a long time. You notice it with full force when you are sick. When the body does not work, and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it.
"I love him, I hate him" - perhaps these ambivalent feelings are quite normal for someone we are always close to, who is part of us, with whom we literally go through fat and thin, through bad and through good times , But how many people loudly say "I love my body" with all my heart?
He is known to be so happy. By the way, almost no matter what he looks like. Maybe you should just get to know him again and again to do more with him, as long as that still works. Creating something with your hands, walking in the rain, digging in the garden, swimming naked in the lake, dancing through the night, singing aloud, smooching for a long time, touching other people and more. Only as an idea. That would be a measure against which even the mind can say nothing.
