Stefanie Demann: Lead yourself with these self-coaching tips
Some have already met her at the big ChroniquesDuVasteMonde Academy job symposium in Berlin and visited her workshop "You can have fun!" With self-coaching make your weaknesses an ally "- Now bestselling author and self-coaching expert Stefanie Demann gives 5 tips for better self-guidance:
Leading yourself becomes more and more important, otherwise we will soon no longer know where our head is. Self-coaching does not aim to make you perfect. Self-coaching puts you in the position to lead yourself through difficult phases and challenging times. Self-guidance means that you act actively rather than just reacting to events, others' behavior, and feelings. Those who only react quickly find themselves to be inadequate, dissatisfied, overloaded, burned out. With self-coaching you take over again the leadership in own thing - and so it goes:
1. Choose an inner attitude
Decide how you want to deal with yourself and others. An inner attitude is the basis of every self-guidance. It makes a difference whether you make yourself hostile to yourself and others, or if you opt for a positive image of mankind like a self-trainer and stand up for values such as tolerance and humanity.
2. Decide if you want to act or react
Self-coaches want to act. Anyone who reacts quickly finds himself a victim. Acting means that things that happen to us no longer automatically lead to certain feelings and behaviors: The colleague makes a stupid spell and I'm angry. Self-coaches allow themselves the choice, because there is never just one way to understand and deal with an event.
3. Set leadership goals
Leaders in their own cause always have a specific goal in mind. Out of the inner attitude that self-coaches choose, they develop their goals: I let silly sayings pass me by. I ask how the other person meant something exactly. I do not do it exactly like the colleague, even if I have a counter on my tongue.
4. Get to know each other better
Challenging situations always evoke a tug-of-war of the different interests of our inner voices. One of the bitchy colleague would like to choke on one, the other reminds of the attitude that you wanted to keep. The better you know your inner protagonists and the more they know about their needs, the better you can control them consciously and not simply be controlled by them.
5. Treat yourself to detours
Detours, relapses, honor rounds consider self-coaches as learning opportunities. Self-management is a lifelong affair that will always be a challenge. You have asked her: Congratulations!
Information and contact
Stefanie Demann is self-coaching expert, bestselling author (30 minutes self-coaching, Gabal-Verlag), trainer and coach.
www.stefaniedemann.de
