"Failed as a mother!" - Cult blogger about her hardest hour
"I was finished - and people told me I was a miserable mother!"
Kristina Kuzmic has made it: On Youtube, she has become a star through her direct, honest way of talking about her family and upbringing style. Especially when dealing with her children, she has a real role model for her fans ("I'm not her girlfriend, but her mother, basta!"). But now she reveals on Youtube that she thought she was a miserable mother for a long time.
"I was sleeping on the floor"
Kuzmic says that ten years after her divorce, she was so poor that she had to live with her children in a one-bedroom apartment and live on food stamps. She had to sleep on the floor for lack of bed and had given up any hope for a better future. But the worst, she says, was the comments of other people in all that she allegedly abandoned her children and failed daily as a mother. And Kuzmic finally believed it himself.
"I did not care about her properly!"
Eventually her depression became so bad that she was prescribed free therapy sessions. The therapist asked her directly, "Why do you think you're a bad mother?" Kuzmic took a deep breath and listed a long list:
"I used to cook fresh, healthy food for my kids, now I'm just heating up food, and before the divorce, I used to go out with the kids: parks, playgrounds, museums ... now I often put them in front of the TV, sometimes for hours, just so I can hide and cry. " Kuzmic talked for minutes about why she failed so much as a mother, surefire that the therapist silently condemned her for her mistakes all the time. But when she finished, the therapist looked at her very seriously and then said:"Wow, Kristina, you are an amazing mother!"
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Kuzmic could not believe it at first, but he continued unperturbed: "You are completely down, the worst point in your life, and yet you always make sure that your children never miss out on anything." You manage to make food for them You allow them to just laugh uninhibitedly in front of the TV while you bravely hide your own suffering from them, which is incredibly selfless of you! " In fact, each of Kristina's "mistakes" was the expression of a strong, loving mother whom her children could be proud of: "You're a mother who manages to do her best even in the worst of conditions."
"OK" is good enough!
For Kristina, these words triggered a decisive turn in her life, and she wants other mothers to no longer feel bad. "We always want to be perfect, "she says. "And often we are just okay. And you know what? That's good enough. If you feel you can not get anything, take a moment to tell your inner voice to shut up! "
Since we can only give Kristina right: Every mother does her best for her children, and that's what counts. If other people have time to get worked up about imperfections, they should. Promise: No kid will complain if there's "just" frozen pizza and "watch TV" a few minutes more!
