Dieter Moor and Sonja in the "asshole-free zone"
The donkeys are on a diet. Eat too much lucky clover, says Sonja Moor. That's why they are not allowed on the lawn today, but must stay inside. We leave the donkey stable on the right, and the wooden rondel in which the horses are trained, continue to wade through the mud, crawl under the electric fence - and we are right in the middle of the Brandenburg steppe. 150 hectares of fields, meadows, expanse. Above it a horizon, which is really still one, unobstructed and undisguised.
Somewhere, by the little wood, they have to be. "Not so wild," says Sonja Moor. "Buffalo bulls like to fold together when they have stress." Dieter Moor has taken a few steps and tries to keep the dog trio Heidi, Max and Carla under control. The three mongrels struggle uninterruptedly and make impressive cross-country sprints. In the last few meters, the ground is still boggy, the puddle density increases. And then they are finally here, the water buffalo. Grazing and dozing frugal to yourself, seem a bit out of time, but much less exotic than expected, here in the East German lowlands.
Dieter Moor: Where is Sonja?
"Sonja?" Dieter Moor looks around. Sonja absolutely had to make a detour over the stable, get brush and navel spray. Slowly, the two approach the water buffaloes, but now prefer to take the orderly retreat. Only calf Gandhi, who has raised Sonja Moor with the bottle, stops quietly, can be groomed extensively, stroked and look at the navel of Sonja Moor. Everything heals well, she notes with satisfaction. Not a matter of course, after all, it is not much different with buffaloes than with humans: "The boys are more sensitive and in need of care than the girls." When Gandhi then moves to the stable side position, Sonja and Dieter Moor just go with it and cuddle up with him - while dog Max licks the ear of the young buffalo extensively. You have to be Gandhi, right here, in Hirschfelde.
Dieter Moor and Sonja: "We are a community of convenience"
Conversation at the kitchen table: Dieter Moor and Sonja with ChroniquesDuVasteMonde WOMAN editor Sina Teigelkötter.
Six years ago, Dieter and Sonja Moor moved here from Switzerland. They already had a taster course in rural life behind them: Near Zurich, they had lived on a small mountain farm. At some point, however, they suddenly felt too idyllic. To finish. And one day when Dieter Moor came back enthusiastically from a TV shoot in Brandenburg, they decided: "We have to go there."
About what came after, about the long search for a new home and the slow but safe arrival in the foreign, Dieter Moor has written a book: "What we do not have, you do not need, stories from the arschlochfreien zone". In it can be read from the sheep moving about the Treckerkauf to the first village festival everything about Sonja and Dieter Moors new love: Brandenburg.
And what about the old love - her love? Did she need the joint project to stay fresh? "This love that takes place in the cinema that we all dream of, where you look deeply into each other's eyes and say: I've never met anyone like you, and we'll always stay together ... that holds three, if it's good four years, and if then there is no new level ... "says Dieter Moor, as we sit later at the large wooden table in the kitchen - and leaves the end open. In "We will always stay together ..." his voice has crept up to octave, become shrill. Sonja Moor looks at him astonishingly understanding and then says in her very dark, very powerful, very Austrian-colored timbre a remarkably unromantic sentence: "We are a community of convenience." I beg your pardon? Dieter Moor nods. "A very old-fashioned," he adds, now again in his smoky male voice with a muted Swiss touch.
"Sometimes she reminds me of these ancient marriages, where two farms were married to each other - and love was not the most important thing." Renewed neck. Was that this professional irony that comes out of television when Dieter Moor puts his angular chin in a slight incline and modifies the next post? No it was not.
It is even more surprising that the two of them are not "appropriately" talking to each other in the conversation: when she says something, he listens attentively and patiently, even if she once again turns a thought loop and needs a long run to get to the point , Or sometimes it does not even arrive (a pretty Swiss conversation for an Austrian).And if he lights a cigarette, even though the old one hardly burned out, and from time to time does not want to go for it (with a good deal of Viennese humor for a Swiss), she does not raise an eyebrow. In both eyes - sounds cheesy, but is so - reflects very deep understanding of each other. A "community of convenience" seems to be a romantic institution.
Can not we just watch TV in the evening, just like normal couples?
"I always find out," says Dieter Moor, "that working together, pulling one another together - and also in the same direction - generates a form of love - a reliable basic trust - after 16 years I do not ask myself every day: Will she still be by my side tomorrow What we've been through all this, about crises, euphoria, is so important that, frankly, I do not even think much about how our relationship is That's easy, and that gives me a very nice feeling. " He takes another deep pull. "Is Panettone finally available?" Is there. And homemade plum jam.
Dieter Moor discovered the "fairy in a canary yellow dress"
For the moors, the division of tasks is clearly defined: she does the office work, he does the field service. Sonja Moor takes care of the whole house, farm and livestock. For this she gave up her job as a film producer and trained as a certified farmer. Dieter Moor, on the other hand, is only a part-time farmer. For his presenter job at the cultural magazine "ttt" ("Titles, Theses, Temperaments") he usually spends a few days a week planning, shooting, recording ... One has to earn the money that Hof alone can they do not live right now.
But how does love - even if it is expedient - endure that, when one person leads a true double life while the other holds the position in everyday life? The trick of the Moors seems to be to consistently share this everyday life in the common time with each other, to take him seriously, along with its unspectacular sides: Is there still enough milk in the house? Are the carrots from the market really organic carrots? Did Heiko not want to come tomorrow to fix the gate? And when should the barn be mucked out? There is always more than enough to do in a yard, and talking about it seems to bring the two together. But of course not only the talking: "We meet in fact," says Sonja Moor later.
For the first time - at that time both were in their early thirties and living in Vienna - they met at a literary festival hosted by Dieter Moor. Sonja Moor headed the "School for Poetry in Vienna" at the time, which designed one of the program items. At twelve o'clock at night, a very tired Dieter Moor was already packing his things, it was said suddenly that he had to announce the poetry school now. He knew nothing, got angry, refused. When Sonja Moor then appeared, "a fairy dressed in a canary yellow dress," he told her the neat opinion. She looked him straight in the eye and said only: "I understand you." Eventually she climbed onto the stage ("the super-gau!") While the microphones hated and prefer to stay in the background while stealing home. That he kept muttering her name on the way to the subway, only interrupted by many "that's it, that's it ...", and she stood shaking her head after passing the performance and said over and over again: "He is simple gone ... "- everyone kept that to himself.
"She did not want to persuade me at the time," says Dieter Moor. "She took me seriously, that impressed me." Nevertheless, the moderator does not return to the fairy until a year later. When he is no longer in another relationship. He writes her a card that says little more than "I would like to see you again". And she - does not answer. For six weeks. When he has already given up hope, insulted himself as an idiot and ticked things off, she calls. She had traveled abroad in Argentina - and on the return flight she had conveniently separated from her former partner ...
Sonja Moor falters and slowly returns to the present. "Now hammer's told so detailed," she says. Right. "Sonja just talks too much," says Dieter Moor. "It never stops." He lays his edge head suspiciously diagonally again. "I always ask: 'Can not we watch TV in the evening, just like normal couples?' Then she says, 'Yes, but I'll have to tell you that briefly ...' And then it's a quarter to one. " Let him, allow him the harmless tip, Sonja Moor seems to think straight. Or: Actually, he is glad that he does not have to play the entertainer in our relationship. Finally, Dieter Moor himself admits that on the first official date following the postcard action, which took place in a Viennese restaurant, he was extremely relieved that she was denying much of the conversation and both had unquestionably much to say. At that time it was suddenly half past four. The next morning.
Sonja Moor still had to ring her best friend out of her sleep and report."I would not have sounded out," says Dieter Moor. "I just wanted to fall asleep in bed and in that warm feeling that it was not a projection, but a hammer animal." Did he just say "hammer animal"? "Yes, a Hammerviech, just a great one."
Sonja Moor is still impressed today: "Then he sits opposite me and says things ... only I could know," she says. This man knew of qualities that annoyed her, compromises they no longer want, desires that she finally wanted fulfilled. How did he know that? Because it had happened to him in his former relationships and his marriage just as you did. "Past ...", Dieter Moor warns her gently now. "That's how we never arrive in the present." But Sonja Moor is quite right about riding around on this point, because maybe that's even the biggest strength of this couple: that two very relational people now know exactly what they no longer want - and above all, can tell the other. Good starting conditions, then, but does not all sound like too much purpose and too little love?
To be fundamentally tender, for example, "says Sonja Moor, another Austrian-Swiss thought loop Dieter Moor:" It has to take place. "Sonja Moor:" That's a fundamental right. If I want to be held ... "Dieter Moor:" ... then it has to be held. "Sonja Moor:" Point. "Dieter Moor:" There's no 'just can not', no 'why' again? '. We basically recognize how the other person feels. "And so, they say, they have defined many other fundamental rights right from the beginning, which today form the foundation of their love - and which will continue to be non-negotiable in the future.
No one who deceives or disappoints us is left near us!
The idea of publicly representing these rights, which are so important to both of them, only emerges later, when the two of them have long been a married couple (after a wholly inappropriate wedding in a helicopter over Las Vegas). Together with friends they decide to join the association "Alternatives für Zukunft e.V." to create a "butthole-free zone" in which people share the same values, stand up for each other and realize projects together. Since then, these people like and often come to the farm of the Moors, join in - and meet with the two in fact. Maybe also a bit of a family of your own, Dieter Moor's daughter from her first marriage is already grown up, they do not have children together. "But only people come who give courage to grow," says Sonja Moor. "No one who deceives us, deceives or disappoints us, is left in our vicinity." After all, fundamental right number two also applies: everyone leaves the other the way he is. Turning around does not apply. How old-fashioned that works in times when everyone who does not defend themselves fast enough, a coaching for all life situations is prescribed. And how soothing. Dieter Moor is getting restless. Too much harmony talk? No, he just had to go now, to his desk. He has work to do. Sonja could still tell.
So Sonja Moor is still sitting and telling something. Of this dream she had before she met Dieter, in which her great love appeared to her: a man of about 70, tall, gaunt, Panama hat on his head. Sonja Moor traveled with him. Someone in the background had organized everything, both needed only light luggage, could just be happy with each other and drive, where she wanted to go. "A beautiful, soothing dream," says Sonja Moor. "After that, I thought: Now you have to look for 70-year-old men, but then I was in my early 30s - should I be in front of the retirement home?" Today she laughs. At that time she was saddened by the thought that this self-evident, obliging, unrestrained love was probably only a beautiful dream. When she met Dieter Moor, she told him what she had dreamed. "How old were you in your dream?" He asked her. "Then I suddenly realized: I had dreamed of me as a 70-year-old," says Sonja Moor. "I looked at Dieter - and thought, well, not a Panama hat, but how convenient that we're both the same age."
Sonja Moor
Sonja Moor, born in 1958, was born in Linz. She is a trained industrial clerk, but soon found the cultural industry more exciting. In Vienna she led u. a. the "School of Poetry in Vienna". Later she worked as a film and television producer in Austria and Germany. Five years ago, she got out of the media industry and trained as a graduate farmer. Since then she manages the common farm near Berlin and sells organic meat under the brand "Sonja Moor Landbau". Together with Dieter Moor she has the network "Alternatives for the Future e.V." (AFZ) founded. www.afz-netz.de with the lead project www.modell dorf-hirschfelde.de
Dieter Moor
Dieter Moor, born in 1958, was born in Zurich. There he completed an acting education after school.After a few engagements at theaters and smaller film roles, jobs as a painter, telemarketing agent, newsstand tenants, bar owners and stockbrokers, he finally focused on a television career. At the beginning of the 1990s he became known in Germany as the moderator of the media magazine "Canale Grande" (Vox). This was followed by various TV formats, including their own talk shows, in German, Austrian and Swiss television. Since 2007 he has moderated the ARD cultural magazine "ttt" ("Titles, Theses, Temperaments"). From her first marriage comes daughter Mirjam, who lives in Paris today.
