Um. What is it like when women love each other?
This sex, for many a shame theme, but a perennial favorite. From unusual practices to total lulls in bed? actually we want to know everything? The lesbian sex likes to get a lot of attention. While the idea of sex between two men seems rather offensive to many. A little petty if you ask me. Personally, do I think? as a lesbian loving person? two women logically also more exciting. In the beginning: In the last 17 years some sexual partners have come together and no woman is like the other one. This applies to all people regardless of their sexuality.
Women love each other: in the beginning was the prelude
For me two women are incredibly sensual. The soft skin of a woman simply has no man in the world - and that's a good thing. Although I am rarely tender with men, I enjoy their rough skin and a scratchy beard. In most cases, men affect me more in their touch than women. That may be a subjective view, as I'm probably looking for such men. Among women, I also jump in self-confident? partly also dominant? Personalities, but that's not the same Neumodisch is called this breaking up of traditional gender roles "gender fluid". That's why women can also be wild, biting and having 'hard sex'. Head cinema on. But more on that later. Head cinema off.
Pants on, hand in? finished? No!
When I sometimes see on TV how women love each other, I am often disappointed. Of course, there is also the fast lesbian number, but that's really not the non-plus ultra. Oh, and porn with two artificial model-women playing around with each other, distort the picture as well. My experience is that there are many lesbian women who are not so sexually active. Unfortunately. Of course, sex is not everything, but important? and to me, some lesbian couples look more like good friends or old couples who blend visually and in their leisure time. Everyone's hers, but mine is not. Luckily, among the ten percent of women who live lesbians, there are some who are more sexually experimental or at least more active. I find it interesting that it was with me rather the sexual partners, who also had heterosexual experiences.
The four main options for sex between women
Of course, sexual practices have so many facets. In my opinion, however, there are the following four basic directions:
1. The rubbing
In birds one speaks of 'Kloake on Kloake' and I have often heard as a representative term for lesbian sex, mostly as an insult. It is true that it satisfies some women when they rub against each other with their clitoris. For many, this option is already in the courtship behavior on the dance floor. This courtship dance is a horror for me. Two women dancing together as if they were stuck together on their abdomen? that does not have to be. In the bedroom it is in my eyes often a kind of extended petting. You fumble, but do not really dare yet. First dressed and later maybe naked. Experimenters also use other body parts such as thighs or the chest to rub against the clitoris of the partner.
2. The penetration
Who wants to adjust the heterosexual act of love, selects the penetration. Then one is faced with the choice of whether one likes to use one's own finger or rather an aid. Fingers have the advantage that they are human and therefore feel more, which can be more beautiful for both. Some fingers are too small, too thick or have sharp fingernails. In any case, depending on the position, it can be very uncomfortable and stressful for the hand and arm. Since the physical fit of man and woman is a little better coordinated. Tools such as strap-ons or double dildos can help. They also have the advantage that you can freely determine the size and shape. Many double-dildos, however, I find inappropriate, because they often flunk out? a real mood killer! Pelvic floor training (for example with love balls) can help.
3. The finger play
In my opinion, there is still a mixed form of rubbing and penetration, which is so delimited that I perform them separately. Many women describe to me the rather technical, strenuous or hard processes of rubbing and penetrating as sometimes very unsatisfactory. We want to make love ?, do not fuck. Of course, there are days when unrestrained, animalistic sex is exciting. But the border to unpleasant and instrumentalized sex is partially? usually unconscious? exceeded, especially by men, sometimes by women. Who wants to feel like an object when it comes to the most intimate connection between two people? That's why the finger play is very popular in my eyes.Few women come vaginally (through penetration), many love an orgasm, which is evoked clitoral. But it needs a 'knack' for that. Too much or too little pressure can quickly become a Abturner. Not to mention spiked pickpocketing. Some women love circular movements, other longitudinal or lateral movements. Fast Slow ? the possibilities and preferences are manifold. Crucial to success is to pay attention to others and to speak openly about likes and dislikes.
4. Oral sex
For me the most sensual, most intimate and satisfying way of lovemaking. Since the mouth and tongue have so many muscles and sensory receptors, I believe that it makes the whole thing even more intense. If the fit between two people is right, oral sex is heavenly to me. This is unfortunately rare. If it does not fit, it can quickly become repugnant. It also requires a lot of trust and closeness to allow and give oral sex. Similar to the finger play, everything can be done right here, but many things can be done wrong. Some women like a bit of sucking others a bit more (maybe that's why clitoral stimulation devices? Womanizer? Are just very popular). A pointed tongue (but not too pointed!) Or rather the whole tongue width, only to penetrate the clitoris or at least a little? Again, there are different preferences. By the way, oral sex can of course be given and given at the same time. That too can be nice.
Is that already lesbian sex?
Wow, this question seems to be half the (or even the whole) world? even lesbian women themselves. The answers to when a tenderness is sex, are very different:
- Sex is penetration
- Really? Sex? it is only when I have an orgasm
- When I touch the genital area of the other
- Sex only exists between men and women
For reasons of tolerance and justice, some of these answers are not recommended. Is it so important when something as? Sex? can be designated? For me it's about tenderness, intimacy and the greatest possible symbiosis.
We humans have been given great bodies, everyone is beautiful in his own way. How and with whom we make love and in what intensity and form, anybody can do as they please. It is important that everyone feels comfortable. That in turn has to do with appreciation. Which should? also and just? to be in the first place during lovemaking. The biggest secret for great? even magical? Sex is in my eyes, the other people to see and desire. Only with complete devotion one comes to supernatural orgasms. Of women who come from heterosexual relationships, I often hear that they did not know orgasms as they do with women. Maybe it's because of the constellation, but maybe it would also be very helpful for one or the other man to reflect on the described four basic directions for lesbian sex and to be inspired. Because in my eyes they are not that lesbian.
* The asterisk is used in the LGBTI scene (lesbian-gay-bi-trans-inter) to appeal to those who do not feel affiliated with any of the five categories (LGBTI). I also want to address the people who ask the initial question but do not identify it as heterosexual.
