It's crackling and you're on the verge of landing in bed with your new flirt? An exciting phase! But we all know that when we first have sex both still pretty cramped: He is under pressure to perform well and we often wonder how pretty he thinks we are naked. One also does not really know what the other one stands for and how he reacts to which touches. And then there is the question: In which position should one start? Standing too complicated? Too wild in doggy style? With these three positions you are on the safe side.

The missionary position

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Apart from the fact that the missionary position can be much more stimulating than always claimed, one is particularly close to here. You can also look wonderful in the eyes and exchange many intimate kisses - this is very important for the first sex. After all, it's not about the super-orgasm, but about building an even deeper emotional connection to the new partner.

The spoons

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Exchanging intimate glances, although difficult in this position, there is the maximum body contact. As a woman, you also feel super secure in this position, which really boosts the release of the cuddly hormone (oxytocin). Also an advantage: He can also stimulate you by hand and whisper things like "It's really nice with you" in your ear.

The rider position

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Here you can direct yourself. Because you bend down to him, you are very close to each other. If you sit upright, he can touch you everywhere with his hands. Good for him: He will love to be able to observe you so extensively during sex. Good for you: By being able to control the intensity of penetration yourself, you are guaranteed to get your money's worth.

Sex Positions for the First Time (June 2024).