How much sex is good?
Imagine you have to have sex every day. Two American couples have made such a sex marathon behind, "100 days of sex" by Douglas Brown appears today in German. Does so much sex good or is it just a daily act? What Douglas Brown and author and sex marathon runner Charla Muller say about it. Here you can read the introduction to Douglas Brown's "100 days of sex".
As it stands, everyone has sex all the time: girlfriends, colleagues, even their own children, when they get old. And even the neighbors moan behind the bedroom wall. To keep up with the German average, we would have to 116 times a year let off steam, says a Durex study. That would mean every third day.
The common life is usually not that sexy. In the course of a partnership, the natural enemies of pleasure multiply: Children, infected with whooping cough in kindergarten. A partner infected with the bad mood of his boss. And in the midst of it even with contagious continuous tears, tired of office mails and ironing.
Most couples go to bed together to fall asleep next to each other. Once upon a time there was spontaneous intercourse.
In the beds, get set, go!
Charla Muller donated the sex marathon to her husband
Therefore, the American Charla Muller donated her husband to the fortieth not a fancy car but: Sex. Once a day for a whole year. For the same reason Douglas Brown and his wife Annie agreed on a sex bid: 101 days of sex, no apologies.
Although both couples were happily married to each other, lust had separated from love in everyday life, Between jobs, children and the household sex got only a place in the farthest corner of her life. Once a month or less often they still slept together.
Just start running
Sex Experimenter Douglas Brown advises: Just do it!
After just one or two weeks, both couples were: It feels good to outsmart the lack of desire! Even on busy days, they still found time for intimacy - Sex instead of reading, watching TV or simply instead of sleeping, Often, the Browns and Mullers noted, in the past only the inner bastard yawning had blocked the matzo.
These were the simple days. On many others, sex became the order of the day, as well as "shopping" or "child swimming". Logistics is the opposite of spontaneous, sparkling passion - but, as Charla Muller and Douglas Brown report, sex was no less tingling and passionate. And above all, they finally took their time for it!
The children were simply left to the babysitter when they were not sleeping or enjoying themselves outside the home. If necessary, Charla Muller parked her offspring in front of a video and locked the door of the master bedroom. No reason for a guilty conscience, find them. Her children would have more of a happy, well-balanced mother than of a pinched face.
Do not give up!
And then there were the hard days: Who is in the mood for closeness after a heated argument? Or when the parents-in-law sleep next door? Who wants nothing better than sex, when food poisoning wraps the guts?
Douglas Brown and his wife did not allow themselves an exception if necessary, Viagra had to help, The Mullers also allowed themselves a "no." The goal was not a sex marathon, but to get closer as a partner again.
It runs
That worked for both couples. With so much physical closeness, an old familiarity re-emerged. Suddenly the partners saw each other again - not with different eyes, but they just looked again. They learned to re-estimate the time alone together, not just in bed, And once more paid a babysitter to enjoy an afternoon in the café or a dinner with friends. Douglas and Annie started doing sports to be more physically attractive to the other. At the same time they felt much more desirable. Daily sex refreshed her relationship and self-confidence.
And: he was getting better and better. Anyone who touches each other inside out knows each other inside out and knows much better than before what the other person likes. To avoid boredom - the same love game every day - the couples tried out something they had not even talked about before: Porn, sextoys and positionsthey would not have even come to the sex marathon. Not everything was good. But with some highlights, they asked themselves: why did not we do that already?
faintness
The desire, which had hidden so long between diapers and bedtime stories, reported itself with the daily training all of a sudden by itself. Up to a certain point. Then the pleasure became annoying.
Having sex to have sex was just as much fun as brushing your teeth. Brawling pure-down-out. The special of the intimacy was gone. With the pressure passed the fun.
Take a deep breath behind the finish line
Nevertheless, the stamina was worth it, write both authors. Just because the relationship has become much more intimate and familiar after such an experiment - not just in bed.
Neither couple continues to sleep as excessively as each other, at least as far as rhythm is concerned. Douglas and Annie Brown had once taken a week-long break after their power files. Today they come close to five or six times a month rather than once or twice a month.
Charla Muller and her husband Brad have learned how important it is to simply take the time for intimacy: on three or four appointments a week, Charla adds "sex" to her calendar. Although she did not feel like having fun in the past, she realized how important sex is for her love. She advises:
No matter how many times you've done it before - just do it twice as often.
Here you can read the introduction to Douglas Brown's "100 days of sex".
For reading
100 days of sex Douglas Brown Published by Martin Bauer Publisher: Heyne 352 pages 8, 95 Euro ISBN: 978-3-453-60118-5
For reading
Just do it. How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned on Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!) Douglas Brown Crown Publishers 14,45 Euro English
365 nights: A memoir of intimacy Charla Muller / Betsy Thorpe Berkley Books 8.95 Euro English
