9 survival strategies if you have a teen in the house
I did it. Contrary to any conviction, I bought educational guides. Great books, in which it comes to how the teen in my house as little damage from these stormy times. So far so good. Can I do everything. But what the hell is wrong with us? How do WE do as little damage as possible?
Luckily we are creative ourselves. Here are our top 9 survival strategies with a teen in the house. All tried and tested. Everything is good.
1. Wash yourself wash
Do you know the phrase "I do not have pants anymore, man!"? And your answer is usually: "Because they are all on your floor instead of in the laundry basket, MAN!" If so, it is overdue: your teen should wash his own clothes. Then you pack the whole thing as a pedagogical concept, because even as it goes through. Yes, what? You just want your children to become independent ...
2. Do not even try to be cool
If you have a teen in the house, you are uncool. No Instagram account or Snapchat will help you. You are out. The feeling is better, if you do not even try to be cool with that. You do not have to copy the look of your kids or use words like "cringe". Do it like your sweetheart and just let it hang out uncoolly the parent or guardian. By the way, "Darthvadern" is called that in cool German. But we do not need to know that. We are NOT cool after all. Says the teen.
3. Go to the sauna regularly
If you're jealous of the dehaired thighs of your brood, that's perfectly normal. You treat her yes. Only you would like to have them again. Having a teen in the house is like constantly browsing fashion magazines with retouched models. Should not you? What helps are regular passages in the sauna. This corrects the self-image. Aaaaahhh, SO do people over 15 look like? Right. That's exactly what they look like. And that's fine.
4. Plan the holidays after the holidays. Only the other way around.
Hand on heart: How much did you long for with your parents after 14 days or even weeks? Right! So why would you want to spend your vacation after the holidays of a teen? On the contrary! Give your offspring a little free time without you and plan your vacation so that it hardly overlaps with the holidays. For Quality Time with Adolescents applies: Less is more. And as for great travel: With 19 gladly again, at the moment they probably have no desire anyway. Then it also does a parentless holiday camp, while you relax once again alone, as a couple or with friends holiday. GORGEOUS!
5. "The strictest parents in the world look"
At the next evening of the TV, you go in together "The strictest parents in the world". After that, you love your harmless teen idolatrous again, even in the teen version, and your kid does not get around to realizing that there are worse ones than you. Although you can hardly believe it ... Little hook: The effect does not last too long.
6. You have a love life. Really now.
If you have children, you forget it very quickly. But she would not exist if you had not found the guy next to you in bed awfully hot. Right now is the time to come up with that again. First, because letting go a bit easier, and second, because it's just beautiful. So it says like it is: mom and dad have a date. You are disturbing!
7. You do not have to understand everything
Yes, you always want to be incredibly understanding. One then remembers how it was then and tends to think of herself as a good friend. Caution: Because teenagers need friction. If you do not offer them on a small scale, then they resort to more drastic measures. You are not a girlfriend. At least not in every situation. If you try, you are taking a really important development step for your child. It's about demarcation. So show your limits, otherwise it will be hard. And for both sides.
8. Do yoga
Simply, because it brings you an hour out of the house :-) Especially efficient: Drunken Yoga
9. Do not think that you could really act like a teenage counselor advises you
Guides are great. The Danish family therapist Jesper Juul is a revelation. Familylab founder Mathias Voelchert is my personal hero. But always acting as smart as the experts tell you is an impossibility. Alone, because it would not be authentic. Even gentlemen know that. So why should we scourge ourselves when it fails? Then we just yelled back like a wild Naomi Campbell. And then we just commented on the torn jeans at minus degrees. So what? Next time, we'll do better. You have to forgive yourself. Especially if you have a teen in the house.
