7 sentences that we should say much more often to our children
1. I understand you
How quickly we tell our children that there is no reason to cry, get angry, have a rage or fight. It would be much wiser to put yourself in it first. A sincere "I Understand You" opens doors to a much more constructive conversation. Maybe you both understand each other in the end.
2. Do we both want to spend time all alone again?
"Sweetheart, I'm keeping myself entertained" our children have heard many times. But how about one: "To all the others out there: I just have time and ears for this one sweetheart, my child, exclusive."
3. I want to relax now. I have no time.
No, we do not have to force ourselves completely ready on the Lego carpet. That does not do any good in the end. A clear message: "I want to relax now" is not only good for you, but teaches your child: you can set limits. And you can relax.
4. Please give me some time to think about it.
Not every question is answered quickly. Sometimes it pays to think about it in peace or to consult with someone about it before making a decision or having an explanation. In addition, your child sees that you take the question seriously. This creates confidence in your judgment.
5. What do you think about it?
Then they are just small and they lack life experience. But that's why they sometimes have a really refreshing view of the world. That makes kids great influencers for your life. And it does everyone good when asked for his opinion.
6. Try it yourself
"No, but I do not want to wear a jacket" A sentence that is worth no power struggle at minus 3 degrees. "Alright, give it a try" is so much smarter on the spot. Then simply clamp the winter jacket under your arm and off you go. Betting, after three seconds in the cold, the jacket is on? The sentence is a true miracle cure for power struggles.
7. I am sorry
Our kids should say it all the time, but we're not the biggest heroes when it comes to apology. Are we afraid of weakening our authority? Well, wrong thought, because it is the other way around. Authority radiates people who prove greatness. And children already know: To a honest "I'm sorry" is very much a size.
