What is friendship plus?
What is friendship plus?
Friendship Plus, too "friends with benefits? called, is to combine the benefits of a friendship with the familiarity of regular sex. The model is neither at the level of a relationship, nor is it about an irrelevant affair.
Classically, a Friendship Plus is a combination of two people who are initially over a friendship for a long time cared for each other. With time comes one sexual component in addition, which provides for the so-called "plus".
Elemental for Friendship Plus is that the Maintained friendship stays and continues to do things together without getting very close. Of a "Out of the Friendzone" is therefore no question.
The sexual component is practically lived out as an extra level every now and then, without changing anything about your friendship. Say: Feelings or obligations do not arise from it!
Benefits of a friendship Plus
- Despite having sex with the good friend, the friendship is maintained
- Regular sex with an already familiar person
- No additional data required for a one-night stand or affairs
- Since you do not meet too often, there is a certain tension and freshness in your friendship, which is further ignited by the sex
Disadvantages of a friendship Plus
- Does not replace a relationship
- Can change the friendship or endanger it permanently
- Feelings can arise and the level between friendship and sex is difficult to separate
- Also requires a lot of communication and clear rules
On paper a friendship plus sounds super easy and uncomplicated! In practice, however, it can be difficult.
Only you can tell if the model works for you and a friend, and whether it's worth your regular sex to potentially test your friendship.
A disadvantage: Maybe one of you both already has feelings or is in love and hopes for a long term relationship? To minimize such conflicts, you need clear rules for your friendship Plus!
3 rules for a friendship Plus
1. No cuddling, sleeping and little compliments:
So that you do not move too much out of the "Friendzone", you should not change much except that you have sex - do not start walking through the streets holding hands and cuddle up on the Titanic couch on Sundays watch ...
Such a closeness pours oxytocin out (the cuddle hormone) and soon you ask yourself: "What is that between us? " Also, it makes little sense to fall asleep after sex together. Compliments like "We would like to have a great couple? can be ambiguous and should be avoided.
2. Communicate openly:
No later than when you first slept together, should you talk about what that means to you and how you want to act in the future. Maybe you leave it at that. If you both enjoyed it and you agree that it is yours friendly relationship is not endangered ? From now on you will have a friendship plus!
But this should be at any time again to pass to a normal friendship can if one or both wish this. Of course it is also conceivable that you both feel more for each other and therefore had sex with each other. Then you should also the Perspective for a shared relationship weigh.
3. Dealing with jealousy:
A friendship plus can be considered one modified form for an open relationship be understood. At least in the case where you also meet other sexual partners and maybe even have an affair or a relationship with someone.
If you have always been passionate in the past reported on your dates That can be critical now. Maybe someone gets jealous and falls in love faster than they want.
Only if you really no heated discussions about implementing this relationship model, should you add the "plus" to your friendship?
Are you leading a friendship Plus? Then you are a so-called Mingle! Maybe you are still in a relationship and ask yourself, "Should I break up?" If you are open to new terms, check out our article "What is Sapiosexuality?" on.
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