What is erotic? Do we still see it as 40 at age 40?
Anne Overmaas, 51, animal trainer
"I find a guy on the ladder erotic." If he's got a lot of craftsmanship and intellect, it's a mix that turns me on. "If he can fix so well, he can have it all." I did not care always some buddy who screwed something, a skill that I did not recognize at the time.
Sexy is also when I sit with a man in the restaurant and he just raises his head and the waiter comes. Worldliness, presence and a natural assertiveness make you sexy.
Attractive, I also find smile lines around the eyes. If he still has a gap between the upper incisors and entertains me with a good pun or a fine observation, I'll stay tuned. And I also like a certain originality.
Of course, the taste has changed. In my 20s it was even allowed to be the fire eater at an event when he looked just cute. Dark hair and light eyes were generally enough. With the years count different qualities. Masculinity, sovereignty, a little impudence, intelligent impudence. What has never changed: He must have a good taste in music. Being good means being knowledgeable, not listening to the charts up and down, but having your own opinion. If it comes to the utmost, I appreciate creativity and also joke. Charming or outrageous, never plates. The törnt immediately. Does he whisper in my ear what he wants? wonderful."
Jan Gritz, Editor, 50
"Nah, nothing has changed with me over the decades, nothing at least in the sense of: I need something younger or something like that." I was already thrilling with 16 women around 30, now I have the portfolio even on age-old women 40 blondes, brunette, mane or shorthair, big or small do not play a big role.
The proportions have to be right. Sexy is always the overall picture of the appearance, and by that I mean body and mind. Stupid is anything but sexy and totally repellent. It is very important how a woman moves and speaks. Fast and hectic = undignified and unsonvenient. Natural, relaxed and unaffected = attractive. And I think it's good for a woman to know how to dress in the right way and if she enjoys making herself beautiful for herself. A pinch of sloppiness does not hurt. The only detail, what guarantees me with all women, let's say, average prettiness (see picture, above) ALWAYS electrified: a gap between the upper front teeth or optionally acute upper canines. That was quite concrete now. Nice that I thought about it. "
Dorothea Zauss, 43, farmer
"Sexy I subdivide into two (equally equal) categories: the classic" sexy man "and the" lonesome wolf. "The classic is the one with the shapely, well-proportioned body and striking face. Unfortunately, the sex appeal often flutes, as soon as he opens his mouth and begins to talk ... But sometimes you are lucky!
The "Lonesome Wolf" is the man for a second look. Optically not the eye-catcher, he wins by prolonged consideration and discussions. He scores with a strong self-confidence, acts imperturbable, self-sufficient and he goes his way. This awakens my hunting instinct and lets wild fantasies run wild.
Earlier, the men of mine were reduced more to the optics, or the position they had within the clique? At that time, sex was not very high on the list of priorities ...
Satisfying eroticism can only exist for me if the man fits in one of the two categories? but then I'm happy about many varieties and can enjoy them all in their own way. "
Beate Schönning, 42, journalist
Between the ages of 20 and 30 I had a phase in which it was actually enough for a man to find ME sexy. Look, IQ and background of the guy I did not care (almost). It was primarily about me. The feeling of being desired was my strongest aphrodisiac.
Love and familiarity were rather obstacles that slowed me down. Well, and as I write that, I realize that's not really changed. To be honest, I find my husband, with whom I've been for 17 years, always particularly sexy when we experience something new together. We have the best sex when we are in a strange environment, traveling together, being disconnected from our everyday lives.
When I look at erotica optically, I like men with great teeth, well-groomed hands, a small, firm bottom and a really small belly. Men who also have humor, are great fathers and have success in their jobs. Yes, I really find it absolutely megasexy to have no money problems.There's nothing that lowers my libido like existential fear.
Felix Weidenbusch, 48, esthete
sex...
... it is not more complex.
always up to date and always in flux.
Sex is trust lust and passion.
everything together: is a dream.
little changes with age.
why?
Of course, everyone has their patterns.
attractive are women who live with passion.
women worry too much.
what shoes, what a lipstick,
What dress, what hairstyle?
it's frustrating.
nothing against fashionable, stylish women.
You still have to look for him in the haystack.
but an old jeans, no matter what label,
with color spots from the newly painted wall,
is very sexy.
authentic is appealing.
sex lives in the mind and becomes a passion with the body.
Martha Gold, 40, business coach
In my first true long-term friend, I was 17 years old, I always had the crush on him when he showered me fresh after the tennis practice, with unestylated hair and opened the door in the Adidas sweater. It was this mix of boyish naturalness and athletic masculinity. Coupled with the fact that Tim made me feel like I was in the act of getting in. It's one of my most beautiful "first time in love" teens memories. Incidentally, I only had a crush on Tim when suddenly another woman was interested in him and I felt a previously unimaginable jealousy rising in me. It gave me a kick to win the fight.
However, what kicked me even more later, was humor, coupled with subtlety for situation comedy. Marko mastered both. I left for him the tennis-playing Tim. Intelligent, quick joke I find incredibly erotic. That's how I felt then, that's how I feel today. Mindfuck is probably the right word. What has changed with the years of my taste in men: A man must be completely alone and radiate serenity, otherwise he is uninteresting for me. The best are the men who first listen in peace and then in the middle of the evening with a razor-sharp statement in memory.
Ah, and another nonsense that I like to admit: I love it when a guy speaks a bit of arrogant Viennese with me. My knees are jellied, almost no matter what he looks like. That is so "leiwand"! "
