The secret of good humor: Ten special tips

1. "Where is my mobile again, and my keys ...?!"

Ommm, first take a deep breath. There is a simple theory: Outer order leads to inner peace, and inner peace leads to less stress. Therefore, psychologists have a relatively simple good mood advice ready: keep order! Hopeless? No, because it is also in small steps.

1. Creating a structure: If you are constantly depriving yourself of important things like keys, you need a fixed place to store them - preferably a box or a basket at the entrance.

2. Conceiving a reward: Do not postpone the unpleasant phone call, but put it behind you and then do something good for yourself.

3. Adhere to the "two-minute" rule: Anything that takes two minutes or less to complete is done immediately.

4. Create Lists: Every crossed out bullet boosts your spirits, promise!

2. "I did not get my ass up again"

Wonderful! Guaranteed you will spend a wonderful evening on the couch with a book and a glass of well-cooled white wine. Open the balcony door and enjoy every minute. Seriously - you are doing exactly the right thing: You have made contact with yourself and thus to your wishes, to what is good for you. To act according to one's real needs without a guilty conscience is true personal freedom.

3. "I can not do anything with the church ..."

After the blazing summer sun outside receives a dank cold air and darkness. No one to see except the man on the cross above the altar. Far too loud, your own steps echo through the unfamiliar silence. Carefully take a seat on the hard wooden bench. Breathe through. Close your eyes, maybe fold your hands. Do not think about anything and let everything flow. So much peace. So much peace. In the middle of the city. At some point, after long, long minutes, you get up, light a candle and face the world out there. Give it a try: A meditative trip to the little church in the neighborhood reduces stress, relaxes and leaves you divinely.

4. "Is not the guy a size too big for me?"

How long has it been since you spontaneously addressed someone? Just! Therefore - even at the risk of trading up a drain. Why? Because nothing pushes the soul more than a little adventure and the feeling of being as easygoing as it is 22. He does not want to? So what! They are big enough to face life like a real woman. You are braver than all the guys in the bar together anyway, that's clear.

5. "Why does not the boss send me to Berlin for a meeting?"

Why do not I get a salary increase? Why is the colleague allowed to run the prestigious project ...? And so on. Anyone who perceives the world as unfair, usually acts accordingly. Because our perception is controlled to a not inconsiderable extent by our expectations. Antidote: remove blinkers; set a goal and consider how the personal talents can help achieve that; Show initiative; Getting advice, from friends or a professional coach - most of the time, the view of the ego and one's own abilities is so clouded by speculation that it helps if outsiders honestly correct this image.

6. "I am in a bad mood"

Not for long: become a cobra! This "attitude of the snake" recommends yoga teacher Sonja Zernick against depressive moods. She knows from experience: "Yoga makes you happy, because with Yoga you can stimulate the body's own production of the happiness hormone serotonin." Here's how it works: Put on your stomach and put your hands under your shoulders, stretch your feet long, then straighten your upper body while pushing the pubis towards the floor, sticking out the sternum, making the neck long and tightening glutes. The power should come from the back. And now: smile!

7. "Why am I so often dissatisfied?"

Maybe because you can not handle the right bill? To be really satisfied, you have to experience three times more positive emotions than negative ones. And then you bloom. Flourishing is what positive psychologists call it. In particular, the scientist Barbara Fredrickson has developed this thesis and says that one can better assess emotions by deliberately interrogating his emotional state and so much closer to happiness. "Flourishing" means "blooming", meaning that when you "blossom", you live in balance with yourself, your personality, your environment. Peter Malinowski is a psychologist and Buddhist and is currently writing a book on the subject.He says: "Make it a habit to recognize and appreciate positive experiences of everyday life, be sure to put difficult experiences into a realistic perspective, not generalize them, because once you have fared badly, it must Although most people do well materially, most of them do not thrive, but those who cultivate gratitude and kindness and appreciation for others, and who take care to make some favors on a regular basis, become happier. "

Peter Malinowski: "Flourishing - what luck would you like to have - cultivate positive characteristics and overcome difficulties" (224 pp., 17.95 euros, Irisiana-Verlag)

8. "I look so tense"

Then quickly apply our first aid trick: let your jaw muscles loose - that relaxes your face. Then it goes on with an Ayurvedic head massage. Ayurveda expert Kerstin Rosenberg from the "European Ayurveda Academy" generally recommends massages after a strenuous day or just in the morning for enough energy and a good mood. And even with little time: A head massage is always, for. B. in the shower, and works wonders. Put some coconut or St. John's Wort oil on your fingertips and pretend to wash your hair. Leave the oil to work for ten minutes, then rinse - and start the day in a relaxed manner. The massage relaxes the nerves and promotes the ability to concentrate, should act preventively against diseases, give the hair a silky shine and clarify the complexion.

Kerstin Rosenberg: "The great Ayurveda book" (204 p., 25.90 euros, GU-Verlag)

9. "I need more space"

Hamburg interior designer Sabine Stiller, herself the mother of two children, knows what it's like when the four-room apartment, in which you have plenty of room as a couple, suddenly becomes a family establishment: enough space for everyone becomes a luxury. Stiller's concept for relaxed living, which does not force parents in particular to move to the outskirts of the city with their offspring, appropriately means "4 rooms, 6 rooms". During a visit, she analyzes the personal housing situation, clarifies what one desires, and develops proposals for conversion. After that you will never sit in a bad mood between toy mountains on the couch, because everything and everyone has finally - exactly! - Space. By the way: If Bobby-Cars and Ritterburgen are no longer the problem for you - Mrs. Stiller likes to take care of it anyway.

More information: www.4zimmer6raeume.de

10. "Life is not a wish concert"

Nevertheless, one should not underestimate the power of positive thoughts! It is best to develop their effect in a selected beautiful setting. As a lucky flower for example. In Asia, these floating candles have a long tradition. Ignited, they send them in the evening on a water on the trip and with them a longing wish. Of course no one knows if this will actually come true, but one thing is for sure: Life can sometimes tolerate some magic and romance. So make an appointment with friends, family or your partner for a balmy summer evening at the lake or river, pack a picnic basket and, besides a bottle of wine and good luck blossoms, bring along lots of good wishes (to be ordered on www.design3000.de, approx 5.90 euros).