Princess or cleaning lady: Can you say "No!" say?
Do you go to sleep after midnight, completely sleepy, because your girlfriend, totally drunk, wants to puke her heartache?
Do you carry your heavy suitcases to the taxi when checking out of the hotel? Jump up at home automatically when man or kids "Where's the ketchup?" call? And again five minutes later, because someone spilled the Coke? Is the sentence "Sit still, I'll do it" your verbal perennial?
Then you are probably a cleaning lady, even if a servile spirit from Brazil or Poland wipes your apartment for ten euros an hour. Cleaning lady is not just a profession, but a mental attitude, an innate and usually ineradicable, in which the helper gene is oversized and in constant alert.
A cleaning lady, that's her curse, always and everywhere feels responsible for everything and everyone. She can not help it, no matter if it's about saving the rainforest, the mental frustration of her gynecologist or a teen room, where lightning strikes again every day. If there is need for the woman, she intervenes because her auxiliary sensors are so finely tuned that they already strike, even if only the hint of neediness floats in the room and in this regard much coarser-minded women sit comfortably on the sofa and sip Prosecco ,
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These sofa sitting and prosecco nipples are the princesses, with whom the cleaning lady often understands well, because contraries are known to attract and women pairs are visually and psychologically often a contrast program. There are moms in leggings and childless in career costumes. Women who love too much and bitches who break up with a man when they discover a cream for nipples in his bath. And there are women who take it for granted to be served by life, and others who, to stay in the picture, have been born with buckets and mops. It is the fundamentally different attitude to life, which distinguishes a princess from the cleaning lady and still be able to connect the two in a friendly symbiosis.
Nothing good happens unless you do it - this maxim is what the cleaning lady is all about, which applies to her own needs as well as to all the people in her big, very stretchy heart. In the heart of a princess, on the other hand, there is a big, red velvet pillow on which she sits enthroned and from which she directs her wishes to the universe.
While she is still considering whether she should flinch or stay in the bubble bath, the cleaning lady has done everything long ago.
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A princess pours grief, annoyance and everyday frustration into her cell phone as a matter of course, to hang up after a sighed "It might be that I take my life now" and paint her nails while her cleaning lady friend immediately calls the ambulance. On the other hand, when a cleaning lady has heartache, she hides or make an ice cream with eggnog.
Cleaning lady or princess, that is an attitude and not an income question, a genetically programmed behavior that occurs in all social classes. Not all princesses are rich and beautiful and not all cleaners poor and ugly.
Angela Merkel, for example, is a cleaning lady, who has her own elevator with bodyguard in the Bundestag, but still stands at the stove in her holiday home in the Uckermark. It is, what one calls energetic, a term that is as remote a princess as the insertion of a new roll of toilet paper, when the old is used up.
For them, the sentence "Could you do it, you're just so cheap" was invented, the cleaning lady reliably with "done" answers. If both travel together, the question is every three minutes "Can you please?" to hear the princess of her cleaning lady jackets, bags and bags over, until it looks like a walking clothes rack. Since a real princess even feels a pea through thick mattresses, she spares any hint of discomfort like a vampire sprouts the garlic bulb.
On a recent flight to New York, passengers were recently able to watch enviously as a princess stranded in a center seat worked the Flight Attendant, although apparently gay, until she could move to business class. With a happy "See you later" she said goodbye to her friend who was sitting behind her, also in the center seat. Guess who later wrote the letter of thanks to Lufthansa?
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Nevertheless, the cleaner is not an innocent host cell that is sucked out by the P-parasite, she volunteers to do what she does, Because she finds giving more exciting than taking. And she prefers moving rather than watching from the sofa. Also, if you carry your suitcase yourself, you will not lose it easily.
To be there at all times for the princess and her soul bloating is a matter of course for the cleaning lady, and in her sometimes naïve way, she expects a midnight tea to be cooked for her too, if she is lovingly on the doormat of the princess. But Reciprocity does not find this funnyJust as the thought exceeds her imagination, the cleaner could once deny her needs.
"Who will take away the pea under the mattress?", She will moan when the cleaning lady with double pneumonia is in the intensive care unit, "I can not close my eyes." Because a dysfunctional court is the worst thing that can happen to a princess, If her claim attitude is ignored, her attitude ridiculed, she is only a sad, embarrassing phenomenon. Then the cleaning lady smiles and tucks in a new roll of toilet paper. Because even the cleaning lady is.
8 tips on how to say no
Psychologist Eva Wlodarek knows the best strategies for those who find it too tiring to just think about the others. Read the tips of the expert here.
