Boy YOU looking for mature ER? Why that usually goes wrong
Jupp, I also find gray-haired hair in men quite sexy. But also have some already, or at least it would, if my hairdresser would not cover up successfully on a regular basis. But if women are in their 20s to men over 40, then in my experience, it will be difficult.
What she wants, what he wants
I can actually understand it. When I think of my relationship with a peer in my early twenties, I especially remember his unbridled desire for freedom. He was cool, no question, but he was also a bit windy. When I talked about my later children, he said that I could do whatever I wanted with them. He has nothing to do with them. When we talked about the future, he was careful to always say "me" and "you," not "we." That was not nice for me, but it was not drama either. If I had been further back then and already prepared for a family, I would certainly have been looking for more graying hair and avoiding guys like him who still carry eggshells behind their ears.
The problem with the older guys
But now comes the dilemma: Surely most 40-year-olds are ready to start a family, take responsibility and commit themselves. But these are the ones who either have about the same age as women or have long had family or a wife in their lives. The men, who then get involved in a mid-twenties, usually do not do that in order to put children directly into the world. They want to feel young, free, fresh and free again. That's why the younger woman. Please turn the clock back a bit. The fact that he hopes the opposite is often only noticeable when both are already in love.
Age is just a number
I wonder if the age is so meaningful at all. Recently, I got an email from just this ex-boyfriend, with whom I had a great time, but never a future. He is still exactly who he always was. That's funny, because I always thought that he needed a lot of freedom. It's just part of his personality. A very wonderful one, which makes him a fantastic conversational partner and fascinating man, but none that would have suited my concept of life. I'm not saying that people do not develop, they certainly do. But age is still just a number. What this number does with people, you have to find out. And not about the fact that there are graying hair. Speaking could help. Too bad that you always listen so badly when you're in love.
