What to do about stress?
I am totally stressed again. Is this going to go on forever?
Counter-question: Do you know which stress type you are? The US doctor Roberta Lee has moored four types that respond in very different situations stressed: "performance animals" flourish under deadline pressure, but lose ground under their feet when they experience failures. "Creative Chaotics" like to hear a lot, just go crazy when they get bored.
"Emotional workers" get into the team and circle of friends, but are stressed when they get criticized. And "fighters" are always pissed off when they smell injustice. All types are therefore basically resilient. But if you hit your sore spot, the energy escapes like air from a balloon.
How can I find out what robs me of energy?
"Look for the moments in which the mood tilts," advises the Hamburg coach Carola Kleinschmidt. Locate the trigger, eg. B. the call from the choleric landlord or the new company statistics with red numbers. This will help you easily identify your stress type. A tip: Situations that only cause your colleagues and friends to shrug their shoulders but hit you deeply are suspicious.
How can I get a better balance after such situations?
As a quick fix, a mindfulness meditation trick helps: Try to take the tricky situation as it is and do not rate it. If z. As the boss rumpoltert, it is not her ranting, which stresses us. We are finished with the head cinema, which is then boosted, such as the fear of leaving the job.
Who decouples situation and evaluation, gets more leeway and realizes: The stress subsides. And: as bad as we imagine it will never be.
I do not find it easy to get rid of negative inner voices. Why is it?
To get a relaxed look, you need practice. Nevertheless, whoever gets stuck in the fear sump, should look deeper - in their own self-esteem.
"Those with low self-esteem are particularly susceptible to stress symptoms," says Trier psychotherapist Stefanie Stahl. For those who do not value themselves do not look at their strengths, but above all at their weaknesses and can not accept them at the same time. That wears down.
Why does more self-confidence help against stress?
Because then we completely change our position in the game of life: who strengthens his self-esteem, no longer puts other people or the pressure in the job at the center of his everyday life, but himself. So we can pay more attention to how we are now, where our limits are. The judgment of others is then not so important - we rather dare to prevail.
If you seriously try to focus the spot on yourself, you should do one thing above all else: come to yourself every day. Incorporating breaks into everyday life, maybe writing diaries, doing sports or meditating - whoever is close, gets stronger. It is not for nothing that many physicians refer to self-esteem as the "immune system of the psyche".
Can I avoid getting into stressful situations?
Good idea. But you really should know how to tick. For critically sensitive feeling workers (see question 1): Avoid shark tanks, stand by that you like it cuddly. Creative chaotic people should rather start their own business than stay in a dull treadmill and surround themselves privately with colorful birds.
A special case are "performance animals". Just because they work so much and so much, they need more than any other guy a good balance in life, so close friends and fulfilling hobbies.
What can I do every day to strengthen my nerves?
Sounds funny, but eat differently. If you feel exhausted, you should better abstain from salad and eat at noon and in the evening warm vegetable soups, which calm and strengthen according to Ayurvedic teachings. And for lunch pasta with pesto is better than bolognese, because the basil contains extra energy.
Nervous food for in between are cashew nuts. And whoever manages to replace the constant coffee with ginger and cinnamon teas usually recovers after a few weeks, said health coach Anke von Platen.
