"Unfortunately too fat"? This woman has the perfect answer to this insolence
I wrote this for @stylistmagazine #bodyshaming #bodyissues #healthyhappyandhot //www.stylist.co.uk/life/my-nightmare-tinder-date-exposed-an-underlying-culture-of-body-shaming
A post shared by Michelle Thomas (@msmthomas) on Jul 9, 2015 at 5:11 am PDT
Too curvy to be loved? Impudence!
The woman in this photo is Michelle Thomas, who lives in England and is said to be too fat to be eligible for a relationship.
Absurd? Sure, but that's exactly what she got after an unspectacular Tinder date. Michelle met with the man named Simon for some drinks, dinner and a longer walk. They kissed goodbye, but for them it was not a world-shaking encounter.
All the more surprising Michelle was when she received a bottomless impudence the next day by mail: her date complained about her "too full" body!
"... my body would not feel like it anymore, that should not happen, baby!"
Simon, quite a gentleman, speaks straight to his problem: "As much as your mind, face, and personality turns me on (and, God, they really do), I can not say the same about your character." And what is so bad about the figure? "You are the prettiest girl I have ever met, but in my head only someone can excite me thinner."
Michelle's non-worshiper finds many words and explanations for her "lack," such as the Pearl, "I have the terrible feeling that my body would be tired as soon as we undress, and that should not happen, baby!" "I would marry you right away if you were a touch of a girl."
"... but in my head only someone can excite me thinner."
Again and again he emphasizes that he really finds everything perfect about her - and in the end wants to do her only one favor: "I just want to avoid bigger pain in the future, and I'd rather say it to you now, so that we'll have one later avoid embarrassing situation. "
"Embarrassing" is correct, but not for Michelle. After she had burst into tears in stunned, she wrote the perfect answer to the uncharmante gentlemen on her blog:
"Dear man I met on Tinder ..."
Michelle starts by saying that it is perfectly okay not to find everyone attractive.
"But what is not okay," she continues, "is that after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this totally inappropriate message, it is no less than sadistic, your tone is sweet and condescending but the down-to-earth precision of detailing your disgust about my body is truly grotesque. "
She admits that the letter hurt her at first. That he addressed a fear that many women have as a teenager: "... it does not matter how funny you are, how smart, how kind, how passionate, loyal, determined, adventurous or radiant - if you have a few Gram is too much, no one will ever find you desirable. "
Michelle goes on to like her looks and body. That she does not try to "cheat on the net" on the net, but shows who she is: a confident, happy woman. Her interim conclusion: "I'll never see you again, or hear from you (you may feel the need to respond to this blog post. Please leave it.) You can not say anything that convinces me that you are not ashamed of your gender.) "
But then Michelle explains the real reason why she writes this letter in public.
"You have a 13 year old daughter!"
"I want you to encourage your daughter to love her body."
Simon had talked about his teenage daughter in the course of the evening - and for this daughter, like all the other daughters who doubt herself, Michelle writes her actual message:
"What really bothers me, and the real reason I answer so publicly, is that you have a 13-year-old daughter, a talented draftsman who collects manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.
I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy and treat her body. He belongs to her, and only to her. Praise her intelligence, and her creativity. Encourage them to test their limits and be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bulletproof self-esteem so that if (I'm nice, I say "if") one day a small, unfortunate man tries to solve it, she can answer exactly as I do now:
Simon.
Kiss.
Mean.
exquisite
Marriage unworthy.
Ass.
P.S. "Touch of a girl"? DAMN, that's horrible.
P.P.S. You are also no 1.80 tall.
A strong answer and just the right response to this insolence. Michelle may not have conquered Simon's heart, but she can do without it. Instead, her blog response is now a hit on the net and gets from around the world approval and support.
Let's hope for Simon that he learns something - if only to be a better father for his daughter.
