The wedding ABC
Dissenters who
1. Group of all those people around the bride and groom who have different ideas regarding the design of a successful wedding than the newlyweds themselves.
While the unwanted meddling in private affairs in everyday life is considered improper, the wedding - as well as the birth of the first child - is one of those events that largely override such conventions.
When it comes to so-called "mustard-adding", the following topics in particular have proved their worth as mood-makers: the guest list, the festival budget, the name choice. Common, but because of their side effects controversial means of defending dissenters are: a general news blackout, the repeated reference to the age of majority of the protagonists, the creation of a PIN.
2. Synonym for parents in-laws
Bridal Father, the
Senior gentleman, plagued by financial and emotional loss anxieties.
In the irrational forces that unleash an impending marriage to those involved, even the father of the bride sometimes has unreasonable reactions: thus, the bride's fathers tend to be sentimental upset because they interpret the yes-word as the moment in which they finally and the daughter in public at a strangers lose man - even if this stranger man with the daughter for years living in marital relationships. Similar symptoms can be observed with the mother of the groom.
To underpin paternal-archaic claims to power, some of the bride-fathers try to force the grown-up working daughter into material dependencies that have long since been overcome, even if this means that they have to turn their retirement provisions on their heads.
A typical dialogue for this: Bride (B): "Well, we have found a nice country inn, because we want to celebrate with all our friends, very relaxed, is not that expensive." Brautvater (BV): "Kindchen, you marry only once in your life, hopefully, and you have to think of Aunt Traudl and Uncle Rüdiger, they should also feel well.We once asked the castle restaurant, they have a beautiful ballroom and the 6-course menu ... "B:" But daddy, we can not pay, and the rooms are too expensive for our friends. " BV: "Well, girl, why do you have a father?"
Chromosomes that
In the cell nuclei located genetic material carriers, which are needed for the production of heirs (obsolete: root holder).
The wedding is still valid today - especially among the female family members of the older generation mother-in-law - as the starting signal for the heir-production phase in the life of a couple.
Unless a pregnancy has been diagnosed before the marriage, the newlyweds must expect to be asked to reproduce their chromosomes from the moment they marry.
This may, depending on the violence of the desire to grandchild, restrained ("Do not you even need a larger apartment?") Or less restrained: "The daughter of our neighbors has just got her first child, with you that is probably nothing more before it comes to an end with me. "
Thank you card, the
Traditionally with a photo of the newlywed couple pasted and handwritten postcard,
The couple sent the couple within two to twelve months after the wedding to thank them for their gifts - mostly complemented by selected, tailored to the needs of the addressee paper prints from the unmanageable fund of wedding photos.
For the following reasons often cause for first matrimonial misconduct:
a) The fun factor associated with writing 100 thank-you cards is about the same as dental rooting.
b) The sorting, numbering and viewing of the original photos necessary for creating the prints prevents cleaning of the living room floor for weeks.
Ehework, the
1. Used in Christian circles for pastoral work with married couples to improve the quality of relationships, so that the God given promise of marriage "until death divorces us." does not have to be broken.
to improve the quality of relationships, so that the God given promise of marriage "... until death separate us." does not have to be broken.
2. Substantive short form of the formula used in the secular-paartherapeutischen scene "at the relationship work", with which the necessity is described, after the honeymoon ends to face the marital professional life.The requirements of an egg worker include: team spirit, resilience, excellent communication skills, respectful interpersonal relations, sound experience in the field of crisis management and public relations, independence, ability to criticize, flexibility and willingness to change, a persevering drive for performance, regular psychological training.
Family honor, the
The recognition actually or allegedly paid by the environment to members of a family.
The honor of a family can be based on their social status or their collective moral superiority. As soon as plans become known on the occasion of a marriage that may give rise to doubts about the material status of the family or their moral superiority, family members quickly become dissenters.
Mostly, however, the family theory is based on a simple exclusion principle, which of the older family members with sentences like "such a thing did not exist with us!" is described.
Gifts that
Presented by the wedding guests on the occasion of the marriage, rather high-priced gifts.
From the point of view of the gifts question, it is advantageous to marry as young as possible: Who pulls directly from the shared room to the marriage bed, the traditional wedding gifts - porcelain, silverware, kitchen appliances, high quality towels and sheets, candle holders - to complete his hitherto only rudimentary or exclusively purchased from IKEA inventories.
If the bride and groom manage to credibly convince the guests that their young fortune lives in financially precarious conditions, then the desire for cash is also permissible - and is often welcomed with relief by those obliged to donate. Instead of worrying about original gifts, all they have to do is invent an original gift presentation, for example: handing over a strainer to the bridal couple, with which they can sift the thousand 10-cent pieces out of a sand-filled bathtub.
If, on the other hand, two people who already have everything that man needs to live together to form a wedding couple and henceforth have everything twice what one needs to live, the guests who are not clearly instructed in terms of gifts often only have a grip on the one, No one ever needs anything guaranteed: pasta machines, table-top vacuum cleaners, punch bowls, funny printed barbecue aprons, ice and popcorn machines, tiered dishes, electronic roasting thermometers.
Wedding night, the
The adjoining the evening wedding, surrounded by numerous myths period between about 5 to 9 clock in the morning, to which the newly married couple retires to his room to fall into a coma-like sleep. Reports of the bridal couple, according to which it should have come to sexual acts on the wedding night, serve the private Legendenbildung and should be received benevolently, but not to be believed.
Island that
Over the water level protruding, completely surrounded by water land mass, therefore a symbol for remoteness, adventure and everyday remoteness.
1. In this respect popular honeymoon destination for particularly romantic couples who want to celebrate the officially accredited state of togetherness.
2. In this respect popular imaginary, occasionally real escape destination for particularly disillusioned partners who wish to escape after failed Ehearbeit the officially certified state of togetherness.
Bachelor party, the
Before the wedding takes place, happily packed funeral service, organized by girlfriends of the bride, or friends of the groom, together to let out one last time the - soon languishing in the dark dungeon of marriage - sow.
Church that
Christian church, mostly consisting of a church tower and a nave,
in which a long corridor leads between the visitor benches to the altar - perfect for presenting the wedding dress. Because of its festive atmosphere and the heavenly blessing available there, wedding ceremony is also popular amongst bride-and-grooms who are far from the church. Bride couples who are unfamiliar with church rituals should note:
1. Those who value an original motto should not say, "God is love, and whoever abides in love remains in God and God in him" (1 John 4:16).
2. Blushing during the wedding ceremony saves anyone who previously memorizes the Lord's Prayer.
3. When blessing, the newlyweds kneel down, so be sure to remove the price tags from the shoes.
Love that
A prerequisite, especially in Western cultures, for the success of marriage.
Love is a complex feeling that may include, among others, affection, trust, loyalty, respect, tolerance, compassion, compassion, responsibility, understanding, admiration, habit, common interests and goals.
The exact definition is still unclear and can vary considerably from pair to pair.For the success of the marriage, however, it is appropriate that the bride and groom themselves have a similar idea of love as possible.
Morning gift, the
Gift the groom hands over to the bride on the morning of the bride's wedding night at her sole disposal.
According to old German law, this gift was given to the woman in order to protect her in the case of widowhood. Nowadays a rarely practiced custom, which is supposed to strengthen mutual solidarity and bring luck.
Contemporary dinners are for example:
1. The written assurance of the man to participate in the after-work as a partner in the domestic and educational work.
2. A notarised contract that regulates the maintenance obligations of the spouse in the event of separation, especially if she plans to remain at home for more than three years during the family start-up phase.
Name choice, the
The decision who lives on after the wedding with what last name.
The German naming law provides the following options:
1. The woman takes the husband's name: Eva Stock and Adam Sauer become Eva and Adam Sauer.
2. The man takes the name of the wife: Eva and Adam Stock.
3. Both spouses retain their name, but at the latest after the birth of a child they have to define the so-called surname - that surname shared by all children: Eva Stock and Adam Sauer are the parents of Cain and Abel Stock. Or: Eva Stock and Adam Sauer are the parents of Kain and Abel Sauer. A double name, formed from the name of the mother and the name of the father, is not possible: Eva Stock and Adam Sauer can not call their children Cain and Abel Stock-Sauer.
4. The wife takes her husband's name, designating him as the surname to be given to the common children - and prefixes her birth name with the family name: Eva Stock-Sauer and Adam Sauer are the parents of Cain and Abel Sauer.
5. The wife takes her husband's name and puts her birth name after the family name: Eva Sauer-Stock and Adam Sauer are the parents of Cain and Abel Sauer.
6. The husband takes the wife's name and prefixes his birth name with the family name: Eva Stock and Adam Sauer-Stock are the parents of Cain and Abel Stock.
7. The husband accepts the wife's name and surnames his birth name: Eva Stock and Adam Stock-Sauer are the parents of Cain and Abel Stock.
The name choice means that many outsiders can draw conclusions about the relationship balance of the couple, so it is an act of high symbolic significance. Brides, who decide against the traditional name choice (the wife takes the name of the husband), must still expect that their decision provokes hypercritical, sometimes archaic reactions dissenters, family honor - especially if the children are not to wear the name of the man.
Oldtimer, the
Because of its rare in the road and therefore eye-catching optics of vintage cars is often chosen as a wedding car.
Who wants to be driven to the wedding ceremony in the vintage car and from the wedding ceremony, but does not even have a vintage car, should seek a good friend in the meantime with classic cars. Vintage car clubs near you can be found on the internet.
Alternatively, information can be obtained from the parents as to whether there is a rural, socialized, avaricious uncle living among the distant relatives: many of these grandunits keep their first Mercedes in the shed or in the barn. Even if the Mercedes is only 20 years old, is worth the contact: The so-called classic cars are considered in expert circles as a tasteful alternative to the classic car.
Chocolate wedding, the
Expression for a wedding in which the bride is "filled", so pregnant.
In morally restrictive societies, the type of "conscious chocolate wedding" was and is widespread, in which the bride and groom decide to marry at short notice, because the premaritally conceived child is to be born in regulated conditions.
In today's much more common "negligent chocolates wedding" it behaves the other way around: Given a decided after years of consideration wedding the couple expire in a euphoric-fatalistic attitude ("Now everything is shit anyway!)", To the mutual carelessness regarding the Contraception leads, so that even during the preparations for pregnancy occurs.
Whilst the future grandparents are most ecstatic about announcing a "negligent chocolates wedding", the joy of the pregnant bride is overshadowed by the following minor inconveniences:
a) She has to reckon with the fact that the wedding dress acquired in the fourth month of pregnancy does not fit perfectly on the day of the wedding.
b) She must carry with her the passport and a notarized copy of the marriage registration during the wedding so as to prove at all times that the child was conceived according to the civil service - her marriage promise is therefore not based on pragmatic but romantic considerations ,
c) She has to survive her own wedding soberly.
Quiz, that
Cheerful public guessing game - gladly arranged as a fixed contribution in the context of the so-called "wedding games".
The most popular form of quizzes is when the bride and groom have to answer questions about the common past or their everyday relationship without being able to vote.For the most part, the quiz organizers, who come from the circle of friends, tend to ask the bride and groom a few explosive questions, for example: "Who will clean the dishwasher more often?", "How many minutes does the perfect breakfast egg have to cook?" or, in the most daring case, "light on or light on?"
Anyone who wants to entertain professionally and really wants to attract the attention of all guests - even after the fourth course of the feast - should not be afraid to address the really interesting topics of any relationship: "What does he think of Eva Herman?", "Her most daring erotic Imagination? "," How many percent can she trust that, as he claims, he will take parental leave for the first year as head of his company? "," What does she think of his mother? " or "Has any one of you ever gone astray?"
Back massage, the
In the classic back massage, the female neck, shoulder and back are kneaded for at least 15 minutes by the man's hands.
The stabilizing effect of the regular classic back massage on marriage is alarmingly underestimated by the great majority of men. Here, according to unanimous opinion of all wives an immense need for information:
Experts estimate that around one-third of all separations could be avoided if husbands would listen to their wives' plea after a back massage at least once a week. Because: Purring women do not nag. In the meantime, the Federal Ministry for Family Affairs has recognized the need for action and is planning a campaign under the motto "kneading instead of crackling". Core message of the campaign: The hand on the neck spares the walk to the couple therapist.
Mother-in-law, the
Elderly woman, plagued by emotional fear of loss, expressing the mistaken belief that the son is unable to survive without maternal assistance.
Exemplary Symptoms: Reproachful corrective plucking at the groom's tie knot three minutes before the wedding, lectures directed at the daughter-in-law about the hidden characteristics of her future husband ("Even as a child he insisted on wearing only pressed terry underpants.") Condolences to the son : "For God's sake, nothing against equality, you can not turn back time - but your father enjoyed it too, that the food was on the table when he came home."
However, in the course of marriage it often turns out that the mother-in-law is better than her reputation. At the latest when the daughter-in-law gives birth to a grandchild and gives her a supporting role in raising and caring for him, most of the mother-in-laws overcome their pain caused by child abduction and shift their maternal energies to the recent addition of the family.
Separation, the
First step on the way to a later formal-legal dissolution of marriage.
More than half of all German spouses are currently being divorced into ex-spouses. The successful ignoring of these statistics, or the firm belief in belonging to a minority, is a prerequisite for the decision to marry.
Underwear that
Under the bridal gown to be worn, only to be visited by the groom garments - usually held in white, often provided with lace. Lingerie vendors have invented the category of "bridal lingerie", which differs from other white lingerie by little more features than by a comparatively high price and the emphasis on the attribute "seductive".
Experienced brides, however, know that having their own wedding time and energy to seduce is exceptionally so that the perfect wedding underwear is characterized first and foremost by impeccable fit and high wearing comfort.
Relatives who
Generic term for all those people, for whom you had no or hardly any personal contact for more than three years, but who nevertheless invites you to a wedding in order to avoid family conflicts.
When preparing the guest list, if possible, follow the salad sauce rule of thumb: as with the classic vinegar-oil vinaigrette, the mix ratio of relatives and friends should be one to three. Attempts by the parents to smuggle old neighbors and their own kindergarten friends into the circle of the guests may be fiercely warded off, for example with the remark: "Then you can ask Mrs. Redewisch and Mr. Koslowski for my funeral."
A popular compromise is the invitation of further acquaintance to the reception following the wedding, on which Mrs. Redewisch and Mr. Koslowski make congratulations and presents and can be sedated with cheap snacks and a glass of sparkling wine.
Know that
Most common, because traditional color of bridal wear
White, the color of innocence, symbolizes - like the veil - the virginity of the bride, but may be worn in liberal societies, even if the woman to be married as a woman with the past applies.However, from the second wedding-that is, when the past has been officially documented-most brides do not wear a white dress, even if they have been chastised at the end of their last marriage than ever before in the years since puberty ,
In fashion-conscious circles, brides tend to prefer cream-colored dresses. The pragmatic bride chooses a dress of a simpler style that allows her to convince herself that she can dye it and make it into an evening gown after the wedding - an intention that, on the one hand, makes it easier for the bridal outfitter to spend several hundred to a thousand euros Throwing jaws, but on the other hand, with 99 percent certainty never put into action.
The destinies of bridal gowns are similar: first, if not disposed of earlier for reasons of remembrance hygiene, it hangs in the wardrobe for about ten years. Then one day the now-born and talkative daughter calls, "What did you look like as a bride, Mama?" Mama slips into the dress, remains, if the seams do not burst immediately, either stuck or notices that the zipper is not close - a circumstance that conjures the just still her lips playing romantic-sentimental smile abruptly from the face ,
Mama says: "Do not cry for the past, what matters is the future!" Mama gives her daughter the wedding dress to play with it princess. The bridal gown lands in the dressing box, from there it reaches its proper destination a few years later: the collection of used clothes.
Xylophone, the
A belonging to the family of bar games, for the musical accompaniment of a wedding party rather unsuitable instrument.
Newlyweds who want to make their guests dance should pay attention to the dedication of an experienced, massively-minded DJ, and by no means take into account the recommendations of seriously music-interested friends whose intimate connoisseurship often shows a penchant for out-of-the-way music styles: the hours of playing from Kenyan experimental hip-hop, East German opposition songs, Southern Dixie of the 40s, or Nepalese sound-shell symphonies, experience shows that premature bedtime attendance of larger crowds of guests leads.
More suitable for the extremely heterogeneous target group of a traditional wedding party is the usual mainstream mix of hit parade, soul and pop charts, spiced up with unknown dance pieces. Couples planning a feast without any music and dance must be prepared for the fact that third parties take matters into their own hands: The author knows about a wedding on which at about 11 pm a great-uncle of the dance-less bride with the words "Dear bridal couple, Let me tell you, music is part of a real wedding, and that's my gift! " welcomed a Lower Saxon solo entertainer who initiated the rest of the evening with the Polonaise Blankenese by Gottlieb Wendehals.
Yes, that
English for "yes". Foreign language minimum requirement for love in the global age.
Doubt that
The inner inclination to question taken decisions or seemingly immutable ones.
Doubts are often more pronounced the closer the wedding date comes and the more the person tends to perfectionism. They are accompanied by anxiety and insomnia, which can increase in individual cases to panic attacks.
To distinguish is
a) the doubt about the perfect success of the wedding party and
b) the doubt about the perfect success of the upcoming marriage. In particularly dark moments, the anxiety-causing doubts refer to both points. While doubts about the perfect success of the wedding party with the wedding itself in a state of redundancy or certainty pass, the doubt of the perfect success of the marriage henceforth the everyday life of the couple. With a favorable marriage process, it can be integrated as an invigorating element in the relationship and overcome again and again. In the case of an unfavorable marriage, doubt eventually gains the upper hand.
