Sex-lull: no more sex
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Almost all relationships get into an erotic crisis at some point. Why is it when it does not work properly in bed?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: That can have a lot of reasons. Boredom and routine often play a role in the partners' daily lives: lively eroticism is most likely to take place between two independent people moving forward. But too much stress can lead to physical closeness slowly fading into the background - or a lack of litigious culture.
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Can you explain that in more detail?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Dispelling conflicts in the relationship has a double effect: on the one hand, there are no unspoken accusations under the surface. The partners have no reason to turn away from each other, including physically. In addition, they become aware of the stranger on the partner, so to speak, as an "aha effect". It remains interesting, offers something to discover, has a secret - and remains sexually desirable.
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Does that work - argue again, and already fly the erotic sparks?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Of course not so flat. First, you should be clear about what wishes you have. And also about what obstacles there are in the relationship. Many conflicts are carried out unconsciously about sexuality. This is not satisfactory any more, but none of the partners speaks to it. One withdraws, expects the other from the first step, according to the motto "if he would touch me again tenderly ...". But you can wait a long time!
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Taking the first step can be quite difficult ... How do I do that?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Do not wait for the perfect opportunity. Many couples have deadlocked myths: Sex works only when the children are gone, when the right music is playing, when you are romantically tuned ... You should take advantage of opportunities, even if the romantic feelings are just not there. It is also important to give the partner a positive opinion of what you like, so do not say "I find that off-putting", but say what you want.
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Is not this a problem for many women - in the verbalization of desires?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Right, many women do not have a positive sexual self-confidence, that is, they do not express what they want. Yet, a relationship actually provides the perfect foundation for fulfilling sex: a partner is there whom you can trust. Many did not learn to use this trust for eroticism. Here it is above all important to say goodbye to ideals. You have to ask yourself: What can I introduce myself sexually with this man? Sexual fulfillment does not come naturally, according to the motto "I just have to find the right man".
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Does it help to talk about sex with your partner on a regular basis?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Speech is not necessarily gold in sexuality. Much can also be talked about. It is more important to get active, to dare something. Give in to erotic impulses when they come! For example, if you suddenly feel the need to kiss him when you get your mails, you? S just do it without thinking about the phone bill. It also gives your partner a sign - you do not have to attack each other right away.
ChroniquesDuVasteMonde.com: Is it really a bad sign of the quality of a relationship when the eroticism evaporates over a long time?
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg: Especially in partnerships that go on for decades, there are long periods of listlessness. If you do not sleep for half a year, it does not have to be a sign of a bad relationship. One should handle these phases calmly, not experience them as a catastrophe. But do not totally neglect the eroticism: After all, fulfilling sexuality with a partner you love is something unique. It strengthens the relationship and makes you happy.
Book tip: "Love Wanted" by Claudia Clasen-Holzberg
"Love wanted"
Why can not I find a partner? Why does not hold a relationship? What am I doing wrong? Questions that many women face with self-doubt. It takes courage to own personality to grow a love.
Claudia Clasen-Holzberg helps with this ChroniquesDuVasteMonde book to recognize fears and their own inner blocks and overcome negative experiences. Thus, every woman's desire for a harmonious, lasting partnership can come true.
The book costs 15.90 euros and has been published by Goldmann-Verlag. ISBN: 344239046X
