Mom, how was your first sex?
Sally, 19, and Inga, 56
When Inga separated from her fiancé in 1967, her parents threw her out of the apartment - at the time a woman did not do that. The 56-year-old is important that her four children have more freedom than they did then. High school graduate Sally is very happy about that
Sally: You grew up in the sixties. That must have been an exciting time.Inga: No, that came later. Actually, the 60s were terribly jammed. Sex was a taboo topic, even in our home.But friends did you have?Sure, but that did not go beyond wild smacking. At 19, I met my future fiancé. I wanted more with him, but there was the problem that we could not be undisturbed anywhere. Where did you sleep for the first time?In the apartment of my parents, in the bathroom.But mom!That sounds more frivolous than it was. He probably thought, if there are stains, you can remove them there easier. I found that completely wrong. Well, it did not work outright anyway. As soon as we got dressed again, my parents came back home.Sally: Fortunately, it was different with me. A dear person once gave me a small heart candle and said that if you have your first time, light it and it will be beautiful. When I first slept with my friend, we did that too. It was really romantic.I would have liked to experience it so relaxed. I wanted you to have it easier. That's why you all got a big bed for confirmation - so you can make it comfortable with your partners. Everyone should have their freedom.The problem today is that most adolescents can not handle sexual freedom at all. I know so many who do not know how to take the pill or use a condom. Or girls who got pregnant at 14.And at that age, I did not know what sex is. I thought, you get children from kissing. But I was a late bloomer anyway. It was not until I separated from my fiancé that I started emancipating myself. Although I remained pretty good even then. One year after my marriage, I went to a party for the first time without a bra. The other women found that shocking. How can that! Later, it also happened in my circle of friends, that the couples have exchanged with each other. Nobody had to be afraid of sexually transmitted diseases at that time.That is different today. Nevertheless, many do not take the danger seriously. I'm very picky myself. Although I take the pill, I also use a condom to prevent AIDS.
Rilana, 20, and Angela, 48
For Rilana, her mother is a role model. Because Angela has managed to be happy with Rilana's father for more than thirty years. Besides Rilana, the couple has two more children
Rilana: Is it true that Dad was your first husband? Angela: Yes, and the only one. What I would never have dreamed when I met him at the age of 13 years. He was my best friend - until he confessed his love to me. We became a couple, but we did not sleep together until three years later.Three years without sex ?!What does without sex mean? We had sex with each other, just no intercourse. I came fully at my expense. Unlike many of my girlfriends who constantly went to bed with men but did not get orgasms. Besides, I only wanted to sleep with a boy when I felt sure he was the man for life. And I was convinced of that only at the age of 19.Did not you ever feel like another later?No, I was missing nothing.So far, I have only slept with one man, and with my friend, we were together for four months. That is already long today! I know a lot of girls and boys going out on weekends to tow someone. Only once and bye. But that's not my thing. First, I can not identify with it, and second, I want to pay attention to my reputation.I do not think you should make that dependent.Yes, that's right. The problem is, if a girl sleeps with many boys, she is labeled as a bitch. Guys who have a lot of sex are considered great pike. This double standard is stuck in the mind.And in 2004! We are still miles away from sexual freedom. They exist in magazines and on television, but not in thought.Although the overstimulation by the media but also annoying. I recently flipped through a fashion brochure. There was a woman under a cow and the milk dripped down her. Looked like sperm, totally pornographic.I think that's repugnant too. Or these TV shows, where sexuality is reduced to pure lust. I believe that many people get a wrong picture.Sex is something unique! After my first time, I did not feel very special.But somehow there must have been a change. My best friend visited me a few days later, looked at me and asked, "What's wrong with you?" - "Nothing!" - "You had sex!" - "How do you know?" She looked at it.
