First Christmas with HIS family? 6 tips, so nothing goes wrong
You want to spend the holidays for two, but also leave out any family? There is only one thing to help: both rattle off. Unpleasant only if one does not know the relationship of the loved one correctly.
We reveal what you can score with your friend's parents? and what you should avoid.
1. Get dressed smartly? but comfortable
Sure, the first impression you want to score. But the high waist jeans, which conjures up the slender leg, but tweaks after eating, would rather leave it in the cupboard. Choose an outfit that makes you feel good? Otherwise, you will radiate everything else. Tip: Ask your friend if his family likes to see people taking off their shoes. Would be stupid if you vote your outfit on the high shoe? or wear holey socks just that day.
2. Take care of a gift in time
Hardly anyone asks for a mega-present from you. But the last-minute bouquet should be the last resort. You can score with something you know (or suspect) your in-laws like in Spe. Does his mother like to drink tea? Does his father have many illustrated books on the shelf? Do the two eat jam every morning? In the local delicatessen or on the net you will surely find a nice souvenir. A conversation hanger you have the same: "Ben told me, you rave about chocolate, this strain is a specialty from my hometown?"
3. Talk to your friend first
Which leads us to point three: Yes, you should not do too much cinnabar in advance. But a little preparation can not hurt. What style and taste do his parents have? How are you politically? That does not mean you have to adjust your opinion of them. (Remarks anyway, if you talk to others after the mouth.) But at the first meeting, especially on the already often stressful holidays, it is advisable to avoid too controversial topics.
4. In Vino Veritas? but better for two
His dad treats himself a liqueur, his mother asks if you want a third glass of wine? Presented? if you know each other well, you can sink together. But for the first impression sake and because alcohol is known to solve the tongue (see point 3), you better hold back something. Couple with your friend, you can still crack it in doubt later.
5. Ask his mother if you can help
Sounds simple, but you like to forget about excitement. Even if she declines: The offer is guaranteed to be well received. But beware, do not be overzealous and hectic after eating piling plates and clearing the kitchen. Offer your help, or see where a hand is needed. Do younger siblings jump around his mom while she works in the kitchen? Ask the kids if they show you their favorite jewelry on the tree. Mother-in-law thanks you?
6. Be cordial but not ABOUT your friend
You are a couple, you belong together? The others can see that quietly. He puts his arm around you when you sit on the sofa, or you poke him in the side when he tells an anecdote? everything in the green area. Excessive smooching in front of parents or siblings as well as constant lapping should be avoided: This is neither the place for turf markings nor love proofs. By the way, this also applies if you stay with your parents. Who knows how much his parents depend on him and how openly they deal with sex. The next morning to explain the strange noises from the guest room? No thanks!
Basically, do not go crazy! Half of the golden middle ground consists of preparation, half of spontaneity. And even if a mishap happened: glass of wine overturned, sauce squirted? Who has not happened? Do not forget, the others are only human. If in doubt, will you be able to laugh about it in a few years? If you do not have any ties with each other, you do not care.
