7 mistakes that almost all couples make when they are together for a long time
Mistake 1: Expecting that the other person can read his own thoughts
Surprise, he can not. "But you should have known that I ..." ... you can safely delete this sentence beginning. It is the responsibility of the other one to know one's own thoughts. The magic word is communication. At the one should not save.
Error 2: OUCH! The sound makes the music
By and by, dreadful disrespectfulness sneaks in most relationships. With no other human, we would be so corrosive rumkeifen as with our partner. It should be the other way around. Actually we should not be so nice to anybody else.
Mistake 3: Reminisce, not create new ones
Once again in the beautiful restaurant on the city park? Or play darts, because you did that on the first date? Sounds nice at first, but it does not cause you to create new memories. No wonder one eventually thinks the relationship is not exciting anymore. Fact! That's not her anymore.
Mistake 4: No longer seeing positive characteristics
The socks lying around, the classic toothpaste tube, this annoying way of cracking nuts ... all this we see. What we do not see anymore: The warm brown eyes, the sweet dimples, this cute way to eat soup and its magical way of dealing with children. That's a pity. Because that's all there. Luckily you can consciously focus your own perception.
Mistake 5: Believing that you know everything about each other
Topics that long-term couples talk about: plans, children, everyday stories, the TV program. Subjects that long-term couples unfortunately do not talk about very much: dreams, fears, worries, stories from the past. After all, you know everything about each other. Or?
Mistake 6: Have no secrets to each other
To clear up misunderstandings for point 5: Everything can and should not be known at all. When two people merge completely, sometimes they forget who they are alone. A few secrets you should have before each other. As your ex was in bed, your sweetheart might not even know after 20 years of marriage. Rightly so!
Mistake 7: Underestimate small gestures
It's the little things you forget first. First the candle on the dining table, then the little farewell ritual in the morning, last but not least the good night kiss. And suddenly you feel lonely together and hope for a big miracle. It is the little miracles that receive the love. Sometimes the candle on the dinner table makes the small difference that can change everything.
