If you do THAT, your relationship is doomed to fail
We are all human and mistakes are allowed! However, there are a few things that you should definitely get rid of in a relationship. For if you ask scientists, couple therapists and relationship coaches, it is these behaviors that you use to put a relationship on the wall sooner or later.
Bad talk about the other
Of course you complain to the girlfriend about the partner. But nasty revelry should be absolutely taboo! It's just disrespectful - especially because it's actually about the most important person in life. Worst of all, the negative gossip removes you emotionally from your partner. And if the wind gets out of it, land is under anyway. The recipe of happy couples is that they stand firmly together and back each other, even when there are differences.
Only focus on the negative
Each of us has his quirks. And yes, unfortunately, in the course of a relationship more and more come to light. But whoever sees only the negative of the partner and compares it to the merits of other men, casually throws stones - no, thick rocks - into the way of the growing love. He keeps his laundry on the floor all the time? Good, but he gives the best foot massage in the world! It is important to focus on the positive side at the end of the day - and be grateful for that.
Show no understanding
The chronic back pain, the family quarrel or the job problems - straight men often find it difficult to take the perspective of their partners. This is especially important in personal crises or disagreements. Of course, it's not about always being the same! Rather, one should give others the feeling of being accepted in their opinions and feelings. US scientists at the Gottman Institute found that if men can not empathize with their partners, their relationship will fail in 81 percent of the time!
To argue emotionally
It starts with a harmless joke and opens into a loud argument. In terms of Zoff, men have an important feature ahead of us: studies have shown that they can come down faster and discuss matters more objectively in an irritable mood. Even though emotions are generally good, in the crash you'd better keep them on a short leash. Pause, take a deep breath, carry on! If necessary, take a little fight break. Being too loud and emotional, men hurry up quickly and no longer talk openly and honestly.
Make problems with yourself
Actually, everything is just going wrong, but it should not be noticed by the partner? Not a good strategy! Because those who do not communicate to the other, take away any chance to understand the situation and offer help. This automatically provides distance and many disputes. Often a problem for two can be solved better, even if it does not affect both partners directly. When it comes to relationship problems, it just works together anyway. And there it is like a flu. Take on the problem as soon as possible, otherwise you will be deprived of it and the discomfort will be even greater!
