Five-point program for greater self-confidence
Whatever you want to achieve professionally? Self-confidence is the basis. It helps to seize opportunities, to promote oneself, to make demands and sometimes to set limits. But most of us do not have enough of it, not least because we give our inner critic a lot of space. But that can be changed. So you can increase your self-confidence and at the same time show it to the outside:
1. Access opportunities
You are offered an interesting project or a responsible position. Only: you lack important knowledge. Nevertheless, do not refuse, for example with the explanation: "I am not ready yet? or? I just want to do a further education.? If you enjoy the task, grab it and rely on learning by doing. Finally, most men do that too. And another tip: do you keep your uncertainty to yourself? that is going to happen soon anyway.
2. Put out your own contribution
You receive praise and recognition for a positive result. Then please do not say modestly: "Oh, I was just lucky? or was I in the right place at the right time? Of course, a little bit of luck is part of the professional success. But without your performance, it would either not have stopped or quickly evaporated. Instead, emphasize your commitment: "Thank you very much, I also worked hard for it."
3. Act as if
Do you follow the motto? Fake it till you make it? confidently and confidently, even if you feel differently. This applies to body language and choice of words: head up, direct eye contact, a clear message instead of polite mislabelling, even if your heart beats. Do you feel like an impostor? Quite wrong. You would not be able to show that attitude if you did not have the right qualities. With your? Show? unfold and train your existing potential.
4. Find a role model
Benchmarking in the economy is the comparison of own results with those of the competition. You can also use this principle for your self-confidence. Watch a woman in your area admiring you. Find out what it's all about and transfer that to your individual options. You can also ask your role model directly. Most people feel flattered with genuine admiration and like to reveal their knowledge.
5. List your achievements
Failures tend to stick in our memory rather than successes. That's because of our genetic protection program: our ancestors had to memorize negative experiences to survive. It's still in us today, but it can be deliberately reversed: write down everything you've done so far, big and little things. Do you also have a personal sense of achievement, such as: "I have organized a move well." Read this certainly very long list regularly. In this way, you become aware of your abilities.
Information and contact
Dr. Eva Wlodarek, psychologist, was for 20 years the consultant psychologist of ChroniquesDuVasteMonde. She is a coach for personal impact, speaker and author of guidebooks.
www.wlodarek.de
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