Eight Tips for Dating Over 40

Dive into love - it's not too late for that. Parship single coach and psychologist Markus Ernst helped us out with our eight tips on encouragement.

1. Forget about your age

"I'm already so old, how can I find someone else?" The supposed hurdles that stand between you and a new partner exist above all in your head. You should not forget that. In real life, instead, you have some trumps over younger women in your hand.

Markus Ernst advises you, "Think of the many benefits of dating from the age of 40. Your career has been advanced, the child problem has been resolved - so you can start a new relationship with much more ease and you'll know better what It's good for you and what you want from a partner, so you can communicate much more purposefully. "

2. Do not exclude younger men from your prey scheme

Jennifer Aniston, Melanie Griffith, Susan Sarandon - these Hollywood women love or love younger men. Do not be afraid to meet men who are not of your age. And do not think that would be doomed.

Markus Ernst comments: "Studies show that in every fifth marriage the man is younger than the woman." Younger men are fascinated by the self-esteem and the radiance of mature women, "said a psychologist from Towson State University in Baltimore Contrary to all predictions and prejudices, these relationships are often lasting and harmonious. "

3. Go online

The dream man will not just stand at your door one day. For the love you have to be active - for example, turn on your computer and discover online dating sites.

Markus Ernst knows the advantages especially for shy singles: "In addition to the temporal unboundedness you have the opportunity to get to know the right people from a pool of partner suggestions." Online dating seekers often report that it is much easier to contact them and inhibitions do not matter . "

4. Flirt everywhere and always

When was the last time you flirted? This is already something? Then you need a refresher. Do not start when the perfect man is in front of you. Practicing, practicing, practicing - with the postman, at the bakery and at work.

Markus Ernst also thinks this: "Who flirts, wants to draw attention to his counterpart and show interest - first in a noncommittal and superficial way, that can result in more, or else it stays with a simple flirtation. the fear of rejection is unfounded in most cases, and the playful and non-binding way of contacting you can even boost your self-confidence, making you attractive to your counterpart. "

5. Have many appointments

Speaking of practice: Dates can also be trained. "The more people you get to know, the better you will get to know yourself," says Markus Ernst. "Your own desires and priorities are becoming clearer and inhibitions and shyness in getting in contact with you are reduced.There are many ways to do this online dating again, which is helpful when you put pressure on yourself to have the dream man behind every date Take a look at an appointment as a get-to-know - without playing through all possible scenarios in mind. "

6. Try something new

New men need new opportunities. Therefore, you must get out of your habits if you want to meet new people.

But do something that is really fun for you. "Why leave everything to chance? Take the hilt of action in your own hands and combine the opportunity to meet new people with your interests and hobbies", Markus Ernst also knows.

7. Go out alone

Nobody appeals to you when you are traveling with your four girlfriends? Then leave the girlfriends away.

Markus Ernst has researched this: "According to a survey by Parship, there are grave differences between men and women: While 15 percent of men prefer to seek happiness without being accompanied, only three percent of women go unaccompanied The reasons for this are varied and certainly also dependent on the location of the event, but what speaks against visiting a concert on one's own?

8. Buy yourself something nice

Of course, when you go out alone, you should look stunning.If you are not completely convinced of your charisma, you need an outfit that highlights all your benefits.

Because charisma can be learned, says Markus Ernst: "Only those who like themselves and are attracted to the environment will also radiate this to the environment, provided that you let yourself go - a feeling you can already achieve with small things. Whether in sports, in the sauna or with the new outfit, every time we do something just for ourselves, it has a positive effect on our self-esteem, and this inner feeling of well-being is perceived surprisingly quickly. "

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