With this word you can end every fight
There are couples who seem to enjoy having fun arguing. You are not one of the persons? Then you might be interested in this expert tip.
To admit vulnerability
Couple and family therapist Hal Runkel explains to the business insider how best to defuse a dispute. And not by always firing back? which of course happens easily when attacked with words.
It would be much better if his hurt simply with a "Ouch" to express. And to add the sentence: ? That hurt me. I do not know if you wanted to hurt me, I'm not sure if that's what you intended, but that's what you did.
And what should that bring?
The trigger word "Ouch" can open the eyes of the partner. Maybe he did not realize what exactly he was doing with his words.
The fact that you show yourself vulnerable, the conversation takes a completely different course. Your partner may also say something like: "You also said bad things to me" - the perfect base to apologize to each other. Then it says in the end: De-escalation succeeded? and time for reconciliation sex!
