Why do men talk so much on their first dates?
The author studied psychology and business administration and is an independent relationship consultant and couple therapist in Munich. www.wielandstolzenburg.de
Do you know that too? You are sitting on a date and looking forward to meeting a nice man. But he only talks about himself the whole time! What's going on there? Have you had bad luck and got yourself a bad self actor or is that what you say yourself, so boring? Wieland Stolzenburg gives the all-clear to all women who think like that. He wrote the guide "Men Understand for Dummies" and has the appropriate explanation ready:
"I hear from many women that they are irritated when men clearly present themselves, their abilities or achievements during the first dates - they are almost bragging rights - but this does not have to be a narcissistic imprint but can be typically male. If we look at the view of evolutionary scientists, then the protective and caring qualities were important to women, but to females, to health and beauty, to men.
- The woman does not have to explain her beauty when getting acquainted, you can see her.
- The man, on the other hand, can only optically display his qualities.
Wieland Stolzenburg, Wiley-VCH publishing house, 334 pages, 12,99 Euro.
Consequently, he presents himself and tells how great he is.
Do not take that as a challenge to present your belongings, achievements or abilities. The man could quickly slip into competitive mode and would try to top it off. Express your admiration and appreciation, if you would like that? and especially if you want him. He presents himself to see the admiration in your eyes. How easy the world can sometimes be, right? "
