To address women: PLEASE, dear men, follow only three rules!
Of course, there is no second chance for the first impression. And once a woman has formed an opinion, she is well known never to retune ... So! On! Nonsense!
Dear men,
what do you think about us? Whatever it is, yours Ansprechangst in detail, it causes is definitely up to you, not us. We are not foreign species for whom you need a manual to approach and flirt with her. We are just like you! We know our way around with nervousness, shyness and acute lack of topics of conversation. We fully understand if you can not keep eye contact for minutes at the first flirtation and the small talk themes remain completely harmless.
Seriously: For our sake, you do not need to perfect the perfect start of conversation and even winking, the perfect smile or the right body language you must not necessarily practice for us in front of the mirror.
To be honest, all this is even rather counterproductive, because For us you should have one thing above all: Authentic! And you are not that, if you unwind rehearsed phrases or some clever flirting tips.
In our view, there is in truth just three rules that you should consider when addressing women, and the following.
Women's appeal: The 3 golden rules
1. Respect us as your homies!
Most of you already know it, but here again for the rest: We are people like you? no more and no less!
There's not much more to it, except that it follows something like:
- When approaching and addressing a woman as a man, you should be aware that she does not need you to take the first step. She could also appeal to you if she wanted to, so do not fancy it, you do her a favor, You talk to her because you want to find her interesting and to get to know her. You're complimenting her (which she's also likely to enjoy), but you're doing yourself a favor first and foremost.
Or:
- Even if your dream girl might just be standing in front of you: You can not wrap her around the finger with a sentence anyway, or wake her up in her stomach with the right topics and a good posture. So take a deep breath, stay relaxed and do the rest, Most women have more patience to wait for the real spark than desire to marvel at a cheap firework, if you understand ...
2. Do not fool us!
Applies to the start of a conversation, for conversation, for compliments, for just about anything: Be honest with what you say to us. Not only because every lie will eventually fall at your feet. Women notice (at least) as well as men, if you pretend something? and find that (at least) just as embarrassing, unsympathetic and stupid.
Two typical examples of where you as a man should like to save lying:
- Do not tell a woman that you think you know her from somewhere, if that's not true. Such a cheap and stupid scam to address someone? You really do not need men for that.
- Be honest about your intentions. Do not tell us about looking for the dream woman and life partner, if you're more into sex or just want to try it as a mingle. There are enough women who themselves are in the mood for something new and are only looking for someone with whom they can try unusual sexual positions. Sharing it honestly early on and agreeing usually spares time, heartbreak and annoyance to both parties involved.
Pro-Tip: If something is uncomfortable for you to say and you fear to break rule 1, just do not say it. For example, if two big, beautiful breasts were the main reason why you approached a woman, you do not have to put her straight down like that. First, women know what effect these body parts have on some men. Second, most people feel extremely uncomfortable when their body, and a relatively intimate part of it, is obviously so in focus ...
3. Be yourself!
Among us: Flirting is not so much the topic of conversation. Or how many seconds at a time we keep eye contact. It's all about finding out if the chemistry between us Maybe we could agree and if we have enough in common to possibly try dating or even relationship (more about that, in our article Why are you in love?). And for that, everyone has to do their part Overcome fear and be so confident not to pretend.
Joey Tribbiani from "Friends", for example, says the simple (and actually pretty batty) saying "Well, how are you ?!", because that's his thing. If your interlocutor makes you so nervous that you are speechless, tell her. Find your own way, If you want to approach a woman, please do not cling to foreign conversation ideas or a specific scheme. Because we can reveal so much: Real self-confidence is already very popular with most women.
What scares almost everyone, are the Anmachsprüche in our video.
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