These expectations can not stand any relationship

1. As it is, it should always stay

Your relationship is just perfect. You understand each other well, there is (relatively) little dispute. You trust and have a close relationship. That's great. But that will not stay that way - that's for sure. Life changes every day. We have different phases in the job, our environment grows or shrinks, we get to know new people or others more intensively. We have to fight with losses. Or we simply develop our personality.

All of these factors also change our relationship. And we have to face that again and again. Those who do not want or can not, ultimately refuse to compromise, which is necessary to stay a couple for years.

2. The partner must accept himself as I am

Of course, it is right if we want to save ourselves in someone and feel secure. We want to be loved for what we are. And do not fulfill a task: thin, blonde, harmonious, funny, rich or influential.

But still, the other person does not have to accept us as completely as we give each day. Because, to be honest, there are always moments when we are a pretty stupid noodle. This means we have to work in a relationship to become a better person.

3. He may only find me alone erotic

So definitely in the first weeks of the relationship. Unfortunately, that does not last forever, even if the thought is painful for some. And if we are honest, even after some time we find others pretty cute. To test foreign fliers and his charisma with others is part of life. But that does not mean that the other person would also go alien and / or do not appreciate the relationship. Those who cling jealously in this situation run the risk of losing the relationship.

4. There is always a fair fight

Even if you inhale daily a relationship counselor - it will not be inevitable that one is injured from time to time and unfair. Then you have to learn to forgive and to ask forgiveness from others. But there is also an advantage. Frictions also always increase the erotic in a relationship. Those who are too harmonious, have no conflicts at all, also lose their appetite for each other faster.

5. He senses what I want

If you put ten people into a play and ask them to sum up the plot, there would be ten versions. What does that have to do with relationships? No matter how familiar we are with someone, every person experiences the world differently. Situations fall on other experiences and on other wounds. And so, men and women always interpret things the way they are most present in their own mind. Conclusion: There is no way around it: We have to talk to each other. Otherwise, the other one can not know what we really think.