Single among couples: "Couples bore me"

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The other day I heard two new examples: couples cut single women. Still and again. Do not like to invite home, single parents with their only educated children in the family hotel would rather not at the table. Even a married colleague was recently unloaded again when it turned out that her husband could not come to the Advent dinner party because of the symmetry at the table! I have absolutely no desire to respond to the psychologically very clear motives for this extremely stale behavior. I do not care if it's fear of competition or fear of infection or the masochistic desire to get meaning from men. I'll just turn the tables: I'm avoiding couples. They bore me. A double creature with two heads and four arms at my coffee table - I do not know which eye I should look at. The common denominator between me and a couple who is either freshly in love and self-sufficient or annoyed by each other and hiding this for the time being is quite, very small. Is actually enough about attractive holiday destinations and trouble about fuel prices barely out.



It bores me to death when I experience how a man and a woman complement each other. Because he holds back coolly or politely as the only guy against two women. And she can not speak openly and relaxed about herself and her feelings in his presence, so that his illusions about her do not burst. The times are over when I filled in the gap and made myself a self-effacing clown so that some sort of interesting conversation could arise. Just as unpronounceable when both play the number happy couple, call themselves "sweetheart" and hold hands. Although I know from occasional meetings with her that Christmas is more often than common sex. I do not like being an accomplice in lying and deceiving and veiling. Of course I know even without hectic signs behind his back that Rudi should hear nothing of Elke's single excursion with the Puppy Love the other day after the class reunion.



As soon as they get together for coffee, they grin harmoniously-meaningless and talk about: nothing. Bad is also the opposite: if a couple unsolicited me as a couple therapist. In the presence of a neutral person they suddenly have the courage to let go of pent-up resentment over regular drunkard on his and exaggerated shoe purchases on their side. The third in the league, I mean, protects against the fact that the limits of good behavior are abandoned. Professionals call that mediation or triangulation and require the hour from 120 euros. In such cases, as a precaution, I give water instead of wine, and I long endlessly for my thriller lying on the sofa. I'm really grateful to the couples who exclude singles from their circle, they give me the knack to set me back from them. The women are too good for me in the presence of their husbands. And the men in the presence of their wives as well. Both disappear in the other. Become invisible. I can be alone too. However, such couple visits are not superfluous: Should I sometimes long for a man in the house and feel lonely in my life as a single being, I remember her - and I am immediately happy to be single again.



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