Regret nothing! Why a guilty conscience is total nonsense
According to surveys, almost 52 percent of German women would like chocolate without sugar and just under 35 percent of chips without fat and stamina without training. Why? Because they feel bad all the time. Because they do things and then regret them. Because they all too often have a bad conscience.
I know that. No matter if my girlfriend is annoyed, my husband is stressed or the children sleep badly. I tend to look first, if the whole thing has something to do with me. Maybe I said something wrong? Too much for the man? The children overwhelmed? If a friend told me about it, I would tell her that she's crazy. In fact, this constant-guilt-by-itself quest is absolutely counterproductive. A little reflection can never hurt? Selbstzerfleischung and Überanalysierei on the other hand bring nothing. They only finish you and cost your nerves and time.
Too often I have the feeling that I'm doing too little exercise, eating too much, spending too much money. Or should I rather say "had"? I'm just trying to stop this nonsense. First measure: I no longer apologize for any crap. Because that only leads to misunderstandings and gives me and everyone else the impression that I had actually done something bad. If I've just forgotten to put away my coffee mug in the office, it makes more sense to clean it up later or never than rumble loudly guilty as if I had just run over the boss's cat (though in this case, too, it would be smarter to shut up) hold!).
Do I have to go to jail when I say something stupid? No.
In addition, I simply try not to annoy me over already spilled milk. What happens again if I eat too much peanut flips? Or if I actually said something stupid? Will I fall dead on the spot? Do I have to go to jail? No. I just ate a few more peanut flips and maybe said something stupid. That happens to everyone. Maybe that's why I'll weigh 400 grams more tomorrow. Maybe someone is mad at me. Maybe not. I am certainly not responsible for the feelings of others, And if someone feels kicked on the tie, let him just say it. If someone finds me too fat, please do not! In any case, it takes a total waste of time to spend more than a second thinking about things that can not be changed anyway.
Of course, I would also like to have a really bad drinking party without hangovers, would ideally be aging without any wrinkles and would also like to have a body like Heidi Klum without even getting up from the couch. And, of course, I'll never succeed in feeling bad, guilty, responsible. But now I practice loosening up, not always having a guilty conscience about everything, feeling responsible only for thingsfor which I am actually responsible. And at least happy that I'm experiencing things that I can regret later. Until I make it 100%, I hear Edith Pias "Je ne regrette rien", allow my children to watch TV in broad daylight, eat a lot of chocolate with sugar and chips with fat? After that I do not do any sports.
