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April 24, 2024

Pregnant with the second child: Where is the anticipation?

Our blog favorite: Blogger Henriette draws nothing nice on her super mom blog. Baby blues, relationship stress, expectation pressure - here you read the bare truth about the life of a young mother in Berlin, which regularly clashes with the mother cliché. Refreshing!

At the moment I'm shaking lightly in front of me. As some of you may have already seen on Facebook, another super baby is announcing. Also in March. So beautiful. The Super Dad is looking forward to funny bathing floods, shared cuddles and lots of fun. On the other hand, only negative things occur to me: supervise two children at the lake, so that no one drowns. Run after two children in the street, so that no one is flattened to the stamp. Two children making themselves so wide in bed at night that they are afraid to fall out. Two children who do not want to eat or just do stupid things. Do not get me wrong. I am always looking forward to the next generation. I just have to digest it.

In the same way, all the "nice things" after birth come to mind. I only say baby blues. Let's see what makes me howl this time. Last time, it was Knut and Liz Taylor. And when I think of it, how overwhelmed I last felt the first few weeks, then I wonder how I'm going to make it this time around, with two kids who want something and need me.

I also think about breastfeeding. And if I want that again. Marlene thought that was rather stupid, and it was almost stress. I also do not feel that as the most personal moment between mom and baby and never had the feeling that we are particularly close then just then. In addition, there are these funny breastfeeding pads, always looking down in panic, whether one already "leaking" and has sexy spots on the shirts, the painful milk congestion or the feeling when the child had slept too long and it was almost unbearable. Sorry, I'm really sorry. I can not say much about breastfeeding except that it is best for the baby. I never found it very comfortable to be able to feed the baby everywhere, because it makes me uncomfortable to expose myself anywhere. I always had a vial with me and was so much more relaxed.

I can already imagine what some readers think now: how selfish is that ?! Breastfeeding is the best, because you have to queue behind with its sensitivities. Others want children, and she does not appreciate that. Why does she even get a second?

Somehow, I think, there are enough mummies who feel alike. They also ask themselves how they should manage everything with the next child, who not only has good memories of the birth, breastfeeding, sleeping and possibly thinking: Why am I just doing this again ?!

Well, why? Because I somehow knew that a second would suit us well and I am looking forward to muffled days in bed, two tots in the tub and happy giggling from the nursery, and of course, a lot of things are great, and the baby blues will pass, too. the routine is coming and we already know some tricks from Marlene. In some situations, we may not be so quickly disconcerted or helpless in front of the baby. I know all that and I know that everything will be fine, but at the moment the panic voice and a certain aversion to breastfeeding prevail. Who knows how everything develops? I still have six months left to become relaxed and joyful.