No need to complain!
Only recently I heard it again in a women's round: From 50 nobody wants us anymore, no man, no company. Oh really? Around 15 million women in Germany are over 50 years old. That should be all old wallflowers? Sad characters who are more likely to crash by plane than to get a man or a job? I do not believe that!
For me - I've long since turned 50 - it's clear: your own age is no reason not to bother anymore. Give in to the call of the sofa and marzipan chocolates. To shift the responsibility for frustration and inaction to others, well away from yourself.
Wailing about aging repels younger, not the date in the ID card.
It's true: Anyone who does not want to be on their own should not be surprised if others do not want him. Wailing about aging repels younger, not the date in the ID card. Can we demand that society respect us if we do not do it ourselves?
Our age is part of us. Anyone complaining about it or mumbling it only secretly is himself to blame if his year of birth becomes an embarrassing topic. There are women who say straight out, "I'm 52!" Any questions? Such women never look old. And there are more and more of them. Incidentally, by the way, women whose job it is to look good, to dare to trust themselves, to live sensuality and independence: TV-ladies. Actress Rita Russek says: "The older you get, the more you get into men." Her colleague Erika Pluhar finds: "Sex is getting more and more beautiful with the years." Nice role models. But even without their glamor, life is over 50 as colorful and plump and wild as we do it.
About 50: We are the new center
Youth mania was once. We are the new center. Because of the large number. Slowly but surely financial service providers, advertising agencies, film and television are also catching up. They all work feverishly to meet our needs. They have understood: We are beating rheumatism and seniors dishes. We have disproportionately many phones and computers, buy cars. And: At the age of 50, we have an average of 30 years and more ahead of us. To quit now would be to give up the 100-meter run after 50 meters.
A little bit of discipline is a must if life is to be fun. And self-confidence too. In the youth this is not different. I say that we fifties have as many or few opportunities as our sweet daughters. They too are often looking for the right job, even they may not have a harmonious relationship. And they are not always happy. That the greater part of life is still ahead of them does not diminish their worries.
No man? So what? We can look for one. Of course, benevolent men's eyes strike the younger ones more often than we do. But men do not just want tight asses and tight bosoms! They also want sovereignty, exciting discussions and bright eyes. Nobody has said that these benefits will be lost over the years. On the contrary. Gérard Depardieu says: "The libido of a 50-year-old is much more interesting than that of a 30-year-old." So what. This man got it. And he is certainly not the only one!
No job? True, the job market is getting harder and harder. And not just from 50. And: Almost half of women between 55 and 64 are working. Employers return to the value of expertise and experience.
The libido of a 50-year-old is much more interesting than that of a 30-year-old.
What is nowhere prized: whining, being small, staying passive. If you want to be in the job, you have to do something for it. Learning for life - we already know the term. Now it's double. Now learning a foreign language, now doing a communication training, now investing for the whole big rest of your life.
Of course, it must be allowed to retreat into your own cuddly world, when the forces subside. It's not about extending the youthfulness to infinity, not everyone has to be eternally wiry, witty, sexy. The boys are not always. But each has to weigh for herself when she wants to give up the claim to be a coveted, active woman in the midst of life, to work, to love, to be seen. Those who do not invest in their own attractiveness and at the same time furiously complain of their loss - have not learned something essential: to take responsibility for themselves. Of course that's twice as important now.
With over 50 you have the balance that you know from childhood
Soon we will be in the majority. From 2030, one third of Germans will be over 60 years old. That's why we can create something completely new. We are the first generation of women to have a huge range of options in addition to the grandma option.We can start a new career, start a business with a great business idea or work shorter and study art history as senior women.
After the family phase, we can start a WG, for the first time rent an apartment for ourselves, sell the house on the outskirts of town and move into the city. We can say goodbye to unbearable weddings, start a new life with another man, finally think of ourselves, travel alone or with girlfriends.
We can be friends of our adult children, listen to their music, learn from them, let us advise them. We can wear jeans and high heels and go to fitness training, so that our body remains youthful. We can play our rock 'n' roll records to the grandchildren and tell them about Uschi Obermaier and the Commune 1 when they are old enough.
Of course, we can also sit in the Schlabberpulli on the stove bench, knit socks, read novels or even do nothing. The main thing, we are with us. Stay true to us. And put us behind the mirror, which Erica Jong said: "At 50, I got the balance that I knew from my childhood, with dividends ... Let's call her serenity, let's call her wisdom."
