Little boys in dress: So what? ? Children and imposed sex roles
A good acquaintance of mine has a five year old son who loves clothes, unicorns and nail polish. He also has shoulder-length hair. Simply because he likes it. There is nothing wrong with that. Only that everyone constantly thinks he is a girl.
My youngest daughter has always wanted to wear blue in all variations since birth. Because I've always put her clothes on by her older cousins. That she must be a boy because of that, at least until she had clearly long hair, for some 80 percent of all people in cafes, on the street and in the supermarket very clear. To the question "How old is the little one?" At some point I only answered with a number. Needless to say that this boy is a girl. Pink girl? Blue boy? I have never understood this bill
Do you wear dark brown corduroy pants because you are male?
My friend with the dress-loving son is similar. And he's five, does he have to knock all the time and wear dark brown corduroy pants just because he's a male? We're living in 2018, I want him to know it's not a bad thing he likes skirts, "she said to me the other day. "That's why he's no freak!" That somebody recently asked her if she was not worried that he might develop differently than others, she also told me. Her answer was wonderful. "Hopefully," she said only.
By the way, an educator praised her explicitly because she allows it all. "Why do we still often hang out genetically in the past, what are people really scared of?" I just thought. That their prejudices are confirmed? That the boy might rather be a girl? So what? If that were true, the "male clothing" certainly could not change. And why should it? My acquaintance is only to wish that she stays so cool when her little one is still strolling over the schoolyard with ten in her dress. And that the other children have just as great parents as their son. They know that it does not matter what you have and explain it.
Man. Mrs. Both? I do not care!
In fact, everyone should wear what they want to wear. This applies to 40-year-olds as well as four-year-olds. And I consciously use the neutral form here. Man. Mrs. Both? I do not care. Why do we sometimes cling to stereotypes? For a long time, I had a dislike of sequins, unicorns and Barbies. I have two girls and I do not want to give them these stereotypes. Apart from the fact that I think simple and just blue and green clothes for little girls more beautiful than always just bright pink with sparkling hearts on it? as it is offered in most children's departments unfortunately. Actually, girls do have it a bit easier in this respect (I think they often do not have it in the long term!). A five-year-old with short hair and climbing trees is generally thought to be cooler than a peer in a pink tutu. You do not have to fool yourself.
She does not become a chick because she is wearing sequins
Now my big daughter is really not a tomboy. She has nothing at all that one would call typical male, moves like a ballerina, loves everything that has to do with glitter and horses. Besides pink, her favorite color is red. I took a long time to get used to, because I was completely different. Just one who has liked to beaten and short hair was much better than a braid (which, however, changed with puberty). But then one day I thought that while you do not have to overdo it, it's not just going to make her a bad chick because I'll buy her a sequin pullover. And even if.
So she got her reversible sequin pullover and also the fabric unicorn. After all, I would not forbid a boy to wear a colorful skirt and a doll. In fact, she is so happy about her sequin tops (she has quite a few now) that I wonder why we should refuse this fun to the boys. In the end, it does not matter what children wear, what they play with, what their favorite color is. The main thing is that you are healthy and happy. After all, life is not a pony farm, at least children with glittering ponies and shirts should have fun as long as they can. It does not matter if they are boys or girls.
