"I need more time!"

The starting point

Peggy coordinates the smooth running of customer care, is in the gym constantly in use. Time is racing. And much more, once her boss is in the house. Then extra work ends up on her desk and, sure, Peggy wants to do everything perfectly. Fortunately, she has a great team of 15 people, yet she reluctantly gives up tasks, likes to do things herself. After work, she has no energy and just wants to go to bed. But the job carousel keeps turning in her mind. Her friend from Stuttgart sees Peggy only four days a month, and even in this precious time, she barely manages to drop. She says, "I worked a lot during my studies, but I was much happier, and now I feel like my inner peace is gone, I can not move forward, I can not remember where I'm going." That's why Peggy wants more time - to think, to breathe deeply.



The time researcher: Professor Karlheinz A. Geissler, philosopher and economics teacher at the University of the Federal Armed Forces in Munich

"Sorry, no time" is one of the most common excuses in our society. Often there is no real time problem behind it. Because: If you complain about time problems, complain about something else! Peggy should first of all ask why she works too much. Maybe it's the fear of missing something when she shifts gears back.

Then she should make herself clear: time can not be changed. And she is not short - because every day comes new time. So it makes no sense for Peggy to wonder how she can gain more time. It is important to find out how she can deal with her time more meaningfully and satisfactorily. I advise Peggy: Invite time to yourself, develop a friendly relationship with her. Here are three tips. First: Everybody is allowed to be slow. Slowness can even be more productive. And some work that one leaves lying, done by itself. If Peggy secondly by better organization or the delegation of tasks creates time-free space, she may even disguise the time, deliberately allow boredom and leisure - instead of this won "freedom" for even to use more tasks. Third: Peggy should internalize that time is not always money and above all: time can not actually save. If you could save time, you could attach them to life. But the time saved today is irretrievably gone. Peggy should therefore not put off the moment, but consciously live in the present. Because life means having time.



The communication trainer: Christiane Tantau, M.A., sociologist and personal coach, Hamburg

Peggy is driven by two beliefs that create pressure and prevent good time management: "Be perfect!" and "Be nice!". On the one hand she wants to do her job perfectly, on the other hand she wants to be liked by everyone. The following strategy will help Peggy: As a team leader, she has to learn how to delegate tasks. She manages to do that by internalizing her leadership position for herself. When delegating, she should distribute clear and precise tasks - this relieves pressure. Peggy has to distinguish herself from her boss. Friendly and definitely say no if he wants to transfer too many tasks to her. Two things help Peggy with stress in the future: To consciously remember how good this "easy feeling" is, once you have learned to differentiate yourself. Furthermore, the sentence helps: "I like myself, I limit myself, I say no." So she does not fall back into old behaviors and gains time for herself.



The Ayurveda expert: Dr. med. Dietrich Wachsmuth, doctor in the Ayurveda Center Parkschlösschen in Traben-Trarbach

After Ayurvedic teachings Peggy helps the Prana Meditation in turbulent times. It ensures a stable inner balance through conscious, in-depth exhalation. This will relax Peggy, especially if she meditates twice a day if possible. Here's how it works: take 15 to 20 minutes, sit down comfortably, close your eyes, consciously inhale and exhale through the nose a little deeper than usual. Important is the deep exhalation. Stress, acids, pain and tension should flow out of the body, life and energy with the breath flow back into it. Peggy should also observe her bodily sensations and feelings during meditation and allow all the thoughts that go through her mind. To enjoy pleasant feelings, to perceive unpleasant ones, to strive for nothing, to fend off nothing. The pranic meditation promotes serenity and clarity and relieves the stress. Conscious breathing also helps outside meditation!

... and that's what it did

After a week

After the first coaching interview with the communication trainer, I was tired and tired, but then a kind of inner peace has returned.Suddenly the will was there to finally start delegating. Something started happening inside of me, and I've realized that giving up tasks is not as difficult as I thought. I start to say clearly, what needs to be done, limit my own area of ​​responsibility and do not stop myself from doing all the work myself. This is still unfamiliar and new to all of us in the team, but it feels very good. The deep breathing is class. That way, I keep coming back to myself and can think clearly. I understand the approaches of the time researcher, but they are too theoretical for me. Just too far away from real life.

After a month

Now the knot has burst. For years I wanted to do everything and stand well. Now, after eight hours of work, I actually go home and leave things that do not hurry. And some things are really done by themselves. I now consciously enjoy boredom and silence. The breathing meditation lets me calm down. But the key experience came through the thoughts of the time researcher. At some point at night, I suddenly realized how different it feels to not only use time but to live "simply". I decided to leave my coordination office and go back to the team. All the tasks that have so stressed me are gone. Feels totally easy, I'm missing nothing! And so gradually my inner smile comes back. For me, leisure is now more valuable than money and makes me happier than the job. There's a process going on that I never expected. I know now that time was not the real problem. This "I need more time" was probably a kind of cry for help. That's why I had to admit that I led a life that I never wanted to lead. But I never took the time to think about my life. Now I dare a small start and I'm curious about what's coming.

I Need More Time (March 2024).



Overtime, Stuttgart, balance, life change, time, no problem