I have a friendship crisis! Why stay tuned
It sounds hard, but according to a study by the University of Tel Aviv it should be fact:Almost half the people we count as friends do not reciprocate our friendship. We have about 10-15 real friends in our lives!So, true friends are a precious commodity? And yet, the bond between us and our friends is as thick as sailcloth and then filigree like cobwebs. Sandra always talks about herself, Julia decides every second meeting and Ulla always just wants to go to the cinema and has no ear for problems. That sometimes tempts us: stay loyal to the contact person or your girlfriend? Our plea for the DRANBLEIBEN!
1. Stay true, because friends become less
A study says: From 25 years, we make fewer new contacts and may even let old friends just fall asleep. In the thirties focus is on career and family, the friendships fall asleep faster, meetings are less common. This will only improve again in the mid-forties? If we make new contacts, they are usually not that intense anymore.
2nd Very tight! Girlfriends who are girlfriends of girlfriends
Sounds complicated? It is. Namely, when it comes to a network of friendships like in a clique. If one of them is annoying, a) there is a danger of blasphemy, b) it is harder to separate. But the latter also has advantages: studies have shown that friendships go deeper when friends circles overlap.
3. Strengthen crises
Should not it be desirable to be able to express one another's opinions? Who should do that, if not our friends? Especially with friends that we know since childhood, there are problems because: We all change. If one wishes the other one to work the same way it used to, it will be difficult. If talks do not lead to a result, a break can help. You should agree together how long you would like to take a break - three months, half a year?
Anyone who has lost on the way can also find himself: With joint ventures? a weekend in your favorite city, the sewing course that you wanted to make for so long, bake a cake? Unusual undertakings weld together. Giving time to others gives them the feeling of being important. Remember what you can laugh about together? 82% of Germans say that this is the most common in friendships.
4. She knows you? long explanations superfluous
The advantage of long friendships: we do not have to explain ourselves anymore. Children's friends often know our story? and from a different perspective than someone to whom we tell stories from our childhood or from our parents (namely our, not entirely objective View). Even if new contacts initially seem exciting? and yes also have the potential of a great friendship? It pays off, because stability and stability are good for our psyche! A study says that the majority of Germans already close their closest friendships in their youth.
5. A lover can never replace them
Even if the love is great, and of course love should last forever, it is not smart to be in contact with the friends because of him break off in the long term. For girlfriends have more than relationships at a young age. But even later, the girlfriend is in some areas more important than the man: A study shows that mothers with children under 10 years sometimes feel better about their best friend than of her husband (71 percent).
6. In an emergency, she is there!
Good friends we have had for a long time are reliable. A study by the Allensbach Institute for Demoscopy shows how much we can rely on it: on the question "What have friends made for you in recent years?" Respondents answered the following:
- 60% friends helped with the relocation / renovation
- 51% took their time to be there for me, even though they did not actually have time.
- 41% have helped with their contacts / relationships
- 35% helped prepare for difficult talks, exams and presentations
- 35% have surprised the friend without a reason with a personal gift.
Sounds selfish? No, because everyone needs help and you would do the same for your girlfriend!
