Help, I'll be 30!
The limit to the second third of life
Hectic. Uncertain. In a bad mood. At least one of these little delightful feelings makes the anticipation of the 30th Birthday in the vast majority of minimal. The one send party invitations with the subject line "Celebrate the last time". The others would prefer to have their identity card changed at the registration office, forever 29.
The two numbers 3 and 0 look so harmless! But when combined, they feel like a limit. Behind 30 begins the "all-important second third of life," as psychologist Eva Wlodarek puts it.
At the 18th birthday we thought: "Now we will grow up" - and did not become it. At the 25th birthday, we thought: "Now we are really growing up" - and started at the most with it. And at 30, we suddenly feel very urgent: "Actually, we would have to be grown up long ago!" At the age of 30 you have to begin to commit yourself, says psychologist Eva Wlodarek.
On the next page: Am I doing everything right?
Am I doing everything right?
So who had locked the serious for the first third life in the party cellar, has to let it out slowly - if necessary, he finds the way to the living room anyway without help. And then he asks a question like: Is the tenth internship really what you wanted to achieve in the job? Why do all your friends have children - only you do not? Do not you think the small car is a bit populous? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy?
The wrinkles are coming. The biological clock will wake you up. Friends become competitors for the title "successful life". Good men enjoy themselves at parties, but they often wear a wedding ring and have baby spit on the shirt collar.
Just who still has no work or children, feels the thirties as crisis, says the Tübingen cultural scientist Christian Marchetti. Perhaps also because in one corner of our brain there is still the idea of a "normal biography" stuck - which as such no longer exists.
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On the next page: what helps?
What helps?
An opulent partyChristian Marchetti advises, can act as a sweetener for the birthday cake on the 30th: "Because the Thirtieth is perceived as an incision in your own biography, symbolizes a great celebration better the transition to a new phase of life."
Otherwise, as always: Please do not get upset! Thinking about his plans is good - hysteria and panic counsel you badly. Life should be over? Nonsense. It only goes on. And like in the 29 years before, it keeps asking you what you want to decide for. (By the way, this will also be done at 36/44/59 years, in case of doubt even much louder).
Then constantly look at friends left and right, helps much less than the look inside. Where should my personal two-thirds life go? What does success mean for me? And do I really have to decide now - for example, if he is the right one?
What should not change, will not change even with 30. What you want to change, you should not just touch, because you just happened to have a birthday.
We do not have to reinvent ourselves. After all, we know each other pretty well after 30 years. That's why we do not need to look away shyly at any question. Should these two thirds of life come after all! We are more adult than we may think.
On the next page: drama queen or carefree? Four birthday types
Drama queen or carefree? Four birthday types
Each has their own strategy to deal with their 30th birthday. We have summarized the four classic types for you.
The carefree She ignores the null and goes with the frivolity of a three-year-old on the birthday. The should be "just great" celebrated with many friends. Every wrinkle is greeted with a "Juchu, now I am more interesting" and in conversations casually the round number is thrown in, according to the motto "Thirty, so what ?!" Actress Jasmin Gerat, who will be celebrating "her thirtieth birthday" in December, seems to be one of those guys. "I've always looked forward to the 30's." she says with enthusiasm, "because I knew at fifteen that I would be a really cool woman at thirty!" As she says goodbye, she exclaims: "We are still very young!" into the phone.
The perfectionist Get routiniert before the birthday, the first child, climbs seemingly effortlessly the next career level, in between still the man for life and just looks great. Seen in this way with ex-swimmer Franziska von Almsick. "I used to be a whirlwind and wanted to bang my head through the wall.They get used to it at just under 30, "she says She became thirty in April: a swimmer became a presenter, the son was born last year, she lives with her well-to-do friend in a beautiful city and retreats shortly before her birthday to darken the hair, we congratulate.
The drama queen An estimated ninety percent of all fast thirties belong to this species. Considering the past life and suddenly noticed: I have never tramped through Australia! Somehow my partner does not suit me! My job does not make me happy! Ruthlessly, the drama queen sits over herself and her life in court. What does not fit, flies out. For example, photographer Elenora ended her seven-year relationship one week before her thirtieth. "The date has already played a role in this," she says in retrospect. Even actress Fritzi Haberlandt may call himself Drama Queen. She openly declared to panic: "" I had a real crisis. It started in January, half a year before. "When it was time," I cried ".
The displacer She moves on to the hippest clubs in the city, squeezes her legs in skinny jeans and cheats in conversation one / two years younger. The Verdrängerin is proud to stick with hard diet and the Fitnessabo their teenage figure. Her basically younger friends present her like trophies. Gray hair is not an issue for them and never will be one: What colorations are there for? Unfortunately, no prominent example can be found for this type. Because who belongs, would never tell anyone the true age.
