Get my baby off the pacifier? Not!

"The pacifier fairy can us!"

Fairies play absolutely no part in the life of my three-year-old: not the pink sparkling ones, and certainly not the ones who allegedly kidnap pacifiers overnight. Since I agree with him completely: The pacifier fairy can us! She will not come to our house.

Yes, of course, I know how bad the pimple is for the teeth, for the jaw, the language development, the optics. I know the punitive look of the dentist, the pediatrician and the grandparents, who all have very good arguments why a child should not even start with the pacifier. And if it has already gotten used to this vice, then it should be released by consistent action of the guardians as soon as possible again.



My son relaxes with pacifier after a long day

That's basically correct. But my son loves his pacifier? and idolatrous! He is a lively, happy little guy who chatters the whole day (by the way without any speech errors).

When he comes home, he digests the experiences of the day on my lap with the pacifier in his mouth? as I pour myself a glass of red wine in the evening to relax, although I know that it would be healthier, instead, once the gymnastics salute.

The pacifier - the ultimate child relaxant

Apart from the fact that my son is not ready to part with his pacifier? I am not. I love this pacifier. He is the ultimate child relaxant! A guaranteed time-out, a pause button, a trump that fits in every jacket pocket? wonderful!



My older son, now five years old, never wanted to know about a pacifier. So I know exactly what it's like to take home a screaming, two-and-a-half-year-old Trotskyite from the supermarket. howling, because on the way the grocery bag is torn and looked at me some Supermutti with their "failure" view.

Or a three-hour drive to survive with a roaring toddler in the backseat. How could I have wished for some kind of magic remedy in those moments to calm my child and stop the screaming.

Soother withdrawal led to even more addictive symptoms

Now it is not that the criticism of my negligence in pacifiers has always left me cold. There were certainly attempts to at least limit the pacifier. Pacifier only at night. Or pacifier only in exceptional cases. Or pacifier only in the car.



Did not everything work, on the contrary: The more I made about this pacifier, the more violent addiction symptoms showed the child. It put on secret pacifier deposits, took the nipple suddenly only for food intake from the mouth and fell silent, fearing I would wrest his favorite, as soon as it opened his mouth.

I started extorting my own child ("eat veggies, otherwise no pacifier!"), And because "consequence" is not my middle name, all these rigorous measures ran out after no more than three dreadful days.

So I let my child pacify as long as it wants. Experience has shown that there is a right time for everything, and the children know that best themselves. I know the day will come when my son will not need his pacifier anymore. Then he will summon the pacifier fairy on his own and swap his pacifier for a plastic excavator or a batch of football cards. Thankfully, the grandparents have already completed additional dental braces, so the pacifier will not ruin us financially in the long run. Until then, I just enjoy the peace.

And who knows: If the guy just pisses through to puberty, maybe he'll at least not start smoking.

Get pacifier weaned as soon as possible? How do you feel about the pacifier fairy? In our forum you can tell our author Alena (polite) the opinion. Or congratulate her. Or tell similar stories.

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