Female, childless and still happy
I traveled, studied, did jobs that were not charitable, and I had something with two men at one time. So yes: I have raved. So what? I still do not want children. Not now and not later.
Childless women - pitiable?
In my circle of friends, my family, my neighborhood? Children are the topic everywhere. Especially women are always expected to want children, at least at some point. If women somehow manage to go childless through life, they are pitied that they have not found the right man.
Newsflash: Every fifth woman in Germany is now childless. If you want to know more, take a look at the report "Childlessness, Births and Families". In the evaluation of the Federal Statistical Office of our most recent census numerous topics, tables and graphs are dedicated to the subject of "childlessness".
Childless men - not worth mentioning?
The joke: Childlessness in it is automatically related to women. There are quotas broken down according to their level of education, their age, the state in which they live, and so on. But to discuss childlessness among men, the 155 pages of the report were apparently not enough ...
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Is it really such a big issue if a woman does not have children, that the Federal Statistical Office publishes about fifty tables? And with childless men is not even batting an eye?
No baby has yet woken my mother's feelings
For me personally it goes without saying that I do not have or want to have children. I can not remember a single moment in which I had even subtly thrown away a thought of living with a child? not to mention planning.
I have seen quite a few babies live, and none of them has woken any maternal feelings in me. My two sisters each have several children, and if that has anything to do with me and my non-existent desire to have children, then it has rather confirmed me in it. Because the fact that my siblings have given my parents their well-deserved grandchildren, I have the pleasant feeling of being off the hook.
I do not like children ...
It is clear to me that we all once were children, and that if all were like me, humanity would die out. But luckily not everybody likes me
There are so many heroines and heroes who have children and raise them to wonderful people. I have the greatest respect for my sisters and all parents for whom it is natural to take responsibility for a life other than their own.
But every time I see how lovingly my sister looks after her children, I feel somehow too: probably I could not do so well.
I find it annoying when a child drives on his little bike while jogging his feet. Or when a baby screams in the subway and I can not hear my music properly. And SORRY! - but whenever I hear the howling from the neighbor's apartment, I am infinitely glad that it takes place in the neighbor's apartment and not with me.
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Hate me, but save yourself the pity!
Is that why I'm a selfish Bitch? Might be. But what should I do if there are no feelings of mother in me? I'm definitely not going to make a living just because it's expected of me. Or because I'm scared to die lonely. THAT would be really selfish in my opinion.
And am I pitying because those feelings go away? I can tell you that: Nope! I'm fine. I love people (even if some choose AfD or Trump) and I celebrate life.
If I do not accidentally die, I'll meet a lot of inspirational people, travel to foreign countries, do interesting jobs, and try exciting things. THAT is just MY life.
I admire every mom and dad and believe that they are happy. Not just as parents, but as people who follow the path of life, who feels right for them or who has somehow surrendered. Everyone is happy in their own way, and no one is allowed to judge the life plan of another person.
Why should I be persuaded that something is wrong with me if I do not want children? Because I am a woman? No thanks! Welcome in 2017!
